"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Am i a boring sod?

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I met someone who i vaguely know today, & we got talking. Ever since i found this site i've thought that I've become an interesting, fun loving guy.. but now i'm not so sure.

He was talking about how he was spending time with his girlfriend last night, & asked if i have a ladyfriend.. "no".

He was talking about how he is watching a sports game tonight, & asked if i'm inertested or follow any sports.. "no"

He was talking about how he is going soccer training tomorrow, asked if i do any sports.. "no".

He was talking about how he is doing some volunteer work this weekend, & asked if i do anything charitable.. "no".

He asked me what my interests were.. &.. it occured to me that my life isn't as spectacular as i thought.

I mean, I'm saving money to go to university this year, & i need to pay off debts before then, which means i have to work & save as much money as possible, so i have to be cautious with what i do with my cash.

My life consists of working most the day, getting home & doing some exercise (can't afford gym.. plus i can't drive), reading enlightening books, playing guiar abit. & thats it.

My life is basically preperation for university at the moment. Should i be ashamed of myself for this? I'm not depressed or anything, in fact i'm a very optimistic & happy person, but now i feel that i should be doing more.

what do you think. Is my life a waste right now. Am i living a empty, unispiring existence? or am i doing alright?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don_Joffe

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If you are asking this question, yes, you are boring.
 

Feskaren

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Don Joffe.so what do you do that is so fun...?
 

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You can look at my personal profile but if you'd like Ill tell you because maybe Im not lazy like yourself.

Gym ( 3 times a week)
Soccer training at a club ( 3 times a week)
Bartending ( 3 times a week)
Modelling (when called upon)
Playing all different sports
Clubbing
Listening to music
Make love to woman

anything more?
 

DeathDealer

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Well dude, your life is semi-boring. You go to school and then whenever you have time you work out, or read a book.

If you feel like doing the same thing over and over, you're stuck in a rut and you wonder if it is actually worth living or you forget that life is about trying different things and going to different places.

If you're lucky like me who lives in a cool urban city, you can go anywhere at any time and find something to do. If you're unlucky and live in some suburban hellzone where everyone is the same and the one, you'd have to WORK harder to find something to do.

Or you can do what other boring a$$ people do, work/school - clean/workout - watch porn/video games. Everyday.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Sandinista, why dont you make a change? When he asked you if you were into sports, you should have said "no, but i wouldn't mind checkin out a ballgame" or "where did you say you had soccer practice?"

Just get involved in a lot of activitites and expand your social circle.

BTW...are you Nicaranguan?
 

b's nuts

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Originally posted by Don_Joffe
You can look at my personal profile but if you'd like Ill tell you because maybe Im not lazy like yourself.

Bartending ( 3 times a week)

Where can you be a bartender at only 18?
 

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Being fun has more to do with your attitude than the actual activities you're doing. That also includes getting interested in new things. When you take interest in people you are percieved interesting. Keep up with current events, know a bit of everything.
 

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b's nuts: I am in South Africa, the age limit for drinking, clubs etc.. is 18. NOT 21, which Im guessing is probably your age limit in your country.
 

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Originally posted by Kaliffoo

BTW...are you Nicaranguan?
are you asking because of my username? It's actually named after a Clash album (great band BTW).

Thanks for the replys guys.

I do live in a small village, & most of my proper friends are in university now so i don't see them much. The thing is that i REALLY need to save my money right now, & work can give me unpredictible hours, plus as i can't drive getting to the big towns where everythings going on can be difficult.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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MacDiddy

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You're boring by most peoples standards here, but you shouldn't live life trying to compare yourself to others....

Read the bible.... you will develop game that will get most girls to treat you like a princes without you having to spend anything on them..
 

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Just because you dont have the same interests as this dude doesnt make you boring...


Honestly i would have answered no to everyone of his questions, i dont follow or play sports really, i dont got a gf and i sure as hell dont do volunteer work! hahha unless you consider making indecent proposals to strippers charitable bahahahaha.


honestly who gives a sh1t, how are you going to judge your whole being on one conversation you had with some douchemouth you dont even know?

get real mutha fvcka you dont have to prove sh1t to any lowlife on the streets. Just do what you like bang some sluts sell some drugs shoot some guns play parcheesi with some nuns who gives a damn use 2 trouts tied together with a rope as nunchucks and slap an old man in the face with em, who gives a damn. if ur boring u can find plenty of entertaining ish to do...

rock a nixon mask if you want i dont give a damn, feel me?
 

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Well you play a musical instrument. Not a lot of people out there actually play musicial instrument.

Also, not a lot of people read books for pure enjoyment and you do that.

There are places where you can play your instrument in the open where other people can enjoy it (you can also use it as a lure for girls out there too.) And there are book clubs you can join if you're into them which is also another way to meet women or even meet other people that may think like you do.
 

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It's a BS question to begin with.

If you're totally happy with where you are now, that's great.

You shouldn't even ask questions like this. It all depends on YOU. If you wanna get more action into your life, then do whatever it is that attracts you. If you want a girl or multiple girlfriends, for sex, for a relationship or whatever, then go out and get it.

There's nothing more powerful than the no-BS belief that you DESERVE whatever it is you want, and then get it.

If you run into any problems, that's where this DJ forum can help. But never place your self-esteem into the hands of people you met on the Internet. Some of the most calm, stable people I know are also the most interesting, lively and in-depth personalities that I've ever had the pleasure to talk to. You wouldn't find them bartending 3 times a week and modelling when called upon, but that has jack**** to do with being boring or not.

In fact, a lot of people use their social lives to give themselves the reassurance that they're not boring at all. Personality runs deeper than your weekly routine.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Kerensky

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Sadinista, you're doing fine my friend. Based on what you do, it seems like you're a very controlled, disciplined guy. If you're happy the way you are, so be it. No one should change that. If everyone thought I was boring, but I was happy with myself, it would all be okay.

Think about it this way. What if peopel thought you were boring for NOT doign drugs? Would you start doing pot? Hell no. Dont' change to please others. Live life for yourself ok? That's what I'm actualyl striving for. I'm aiming for the lifestyle you have. The serene, disciplined life where I'm in control and know what I'm working for.

Good luck.
 

-HPNOTIQ-

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We've all heard that old saying
"If it aint broke..don't fix it"

Right?

How about you use this for a new quote:
"If it aint broke..THEN F*CKING BREAK IT!"

Meaning...that old saying that we should keep doing the same thing over and over again because its working is over played.

Many times we should get outside ourselves, outside our box, outside our comfort zone and take in new experiences.
New experiences and new challenges are what build character. These things will build you into a more interesting, well-rounded person.

You don't have to do everything what this guy is doing, per se. What you find interesting and challenging is up to you. Quite honestly, what isn't interesting about a guy in highschool looking to go into a good university, works to save his money for school, and finds time to hit the gym and work on his DJism?

Bro...change your attitude. Part of being interesting to other people is actually finding interest in the things you are doing.
 

MrHarris

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No you should not let anyone make YOU feel that way. You just handle doing you as best as you can. You also play guitar that is admirable.
 

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Originally posted by unDutchaBle
It's a BS question to begin with.

If you're totally happy with where you are now, that's great.

You shouldn't even ask questions like this. It all depends on YOU. If you wanna get more action into your life, then do whatever it is that attracts you. If you want a girl or multiple girlfriends, for sex, for a relationship or whatever, then go out and get it.

There's nothing more powerful than the no-BS belief that you DESERVE whatever it is you want, and then get it.

If you run into any problems, that's where this DJ forum can help. But never place your self-esteem into the hands of people you met on the Internet. Some of the most calm, stable people I know are also the most interesting, lively and in-depth personalities that I've ever had the pleasure to talk to. You wouldn't find them bartending 3 times a week and modelling when called upon, but that has jack**** to do with being boring or not.

In fact, a lot of people use their social lives to give themselves the reassurance that they're not boring at all. Personality runs deeper than your weekly routine.
Amen.
 
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Sandinista asks, "Am I a boring sod?"

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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