"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BrainDamage92

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Clearly she struck a nerve with you. While you felt she was insulting you, I guarantee that was not her intent. Her words were sharing her observation that life seems to weigh you down. She acknowledges you are only 24 and wants/hopes for you to feel more free (for you) in your life. She wants for you to experience your life in a way that doesn't feel overshadowed. She wants good things for you. She thinks you deserve to feel happier, more enjoyment, ease, lightheartedness, etc. She meant well. Her hope was she could point out the heaviness she observes and doing so would help to free you from it. She meant well.

Regardless, time to move on. No need to be an azzhole in doing so. This is an experience you will never forget. Move on in a way that will make you proud when you'll think back on it, in 10, 20, 30 years.
Well, the thing is, she still sleeps where I work at, and actually works at the same position as me currently. I don't think there's an easy way to do it, upside is no matter what I do shell be gone in a month. If I tell her - its over - this will cause a lot of unwanted drama. And yes, maybe I'm a bit too dark. Actually more than a bit. Or this goddamn flu thats been going for 5 days is making me touchy. Maybe Ill talk to her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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