always the taken s!

[bingo_]

holy moly... check this story;

so i saw this girl once about two weeks ago at the library. she looked so cute. perfect. no make up, thin, beautiful hazel eyes. i was sitting on a pc as usual at the library... she comes up to me with her innocence (big pink college/school bag) no slutty look in her. she asks: "excuse me do you know how to print these?" i got up and showed her down stairs and pointed "down there, ask them and they should help you out." with a smile. i was thinking about her for the rest of the afternoon and didn't see her again until today.

i saw her again using that same pc and me using the same one (it almost looked like she didnt even need it. maybe she wanted me to talk to her). she got up and went to study somewhere quiet... i couldn't take it no more, i didnt wanna let this beauty go again. so i got up and approached her and said "hey, remember me? how did the printer go?" she goes "yeah, oh it went fine i went down stairs and did it." she immediately turned red and got a bit shy. so did i! i was shaking! weird... we were talking for about 10 minutes still all red, both of us. finding stupid things just to make the conversation go on. she asked me alot of questions. i liked that. i asked her alot too. shes studying psychology (gets you councelling jobs and such) - i could see we were both enjoying the conversation. even though this happened.

me: so do you drive?
her: yeah but my bf is using my car atm. blah blah (she likes to talk alot! and i like that)

i didnt even really twitch about the bf. i just kept talking and finally i said "well i gotta get going and i'll leave you to your studying. i'll grab your number too. i want to get to know you more. you can teach me about this pyschology stuff, heh heh."

she immediatly gets a pen, rips a bit of paper off her from what she was writing on and wrote her name and number down. i said "thanks, have fun studying. see ya." and that was it.

i always go for the taken ones DAMN!!!!

how do you guys think i went? this time im gonna CALL not TXT. i don't wanna mess this up.

p.s.: when to call? two days later? ask to go for a walk in town, then see a movie maybe after a couple hours? (important to answer. i have no trouble getting numbers. i just almost always dont follow through. someone encourage me!)

 

[bingo_]

grr how do i edit the thread topic. it's meant to say "ones!"

 

[Gangster Of Love]

holy moly... check this story;

so i saw this girl once about two weeks ago at the library. she looked so cute. perfect. no make up, thin, beautiful hazel eyes. i was sitting on a pc as usual at the library... she comes up to me with her innocence (big pink college/school bag) no slutty look in her. she asks: "excuse me do you know how to print these?" i got up and showed her down stairs and pointed "down there, ask them and they should help you out." with a smile. i was thinking about her for the rest of the afternoon and didn't see her again until today.

i saw her again using that same pc and me using the same one (it almost looked like she didnt even need it. maybe she wanted me to talk to her). she got up and went to study somewhere quiet... i couldn't take it no more, i didnt wanna let this beauty go again. so i got up and approached her and said "hey, remember me? how did the printer go?" she goes "yeah, oh it went fine i went down stairs and did it." she immediately turned red and got a bit shy. so did i! i was shaking! weird... we were talking for about 10 minutes still all red, both of us. finding stupid things just to make the conversation go on. she asked me alot of questions. i liked that. i asked her alot too. shes studying psychology (gets you councelling jobs and such) - i could see we were both enjoying the conversation. even though this happened.

me: so do you drive?
her: yeah but my bf is using my car atm. blah blah (she likes to talk alot! and i like that)

i didnt even really twitch about the bf. i just kept talking and finally i said "well i gotta get going and i'll leave you to your studying. i'll grab your number too. i want to get to know you more. you can teach me about this pyschology stuff, heh heh."

she immediatly gets a pen, rips a bit of paper off her from what she was writing on and wrote her name and number down. i said "thanks, have fun studying. see ya." and that was it.

i always go for the taken ones DAMN!!!!

how do you guys think i went? this time im gonna CALL not TXT. i don't wanna mess this up.

p.s.: when to call? two days later? ask to go for a walk in town, then see a movie maybe after a couple hours? (important to answer. i have no trouble getting numbers. i just almost always dont follow through. someone encourage me!)

Women always will use the term "boyfriend", the key is to find out what it means to her. If she is not serious about him, then she's waiting to jump ships. Nothing wrong with that. Please spare the "if she's leaving him for you, what makes you think she won't leave you..." type of responses.

How many of you would quit your job without having another lined up? How many of you would give up on a college major without knowing what you will pursue instead. Same thing with women. Relationships are what defines them, so they won't just leave a relationship, specially if there isn't anything wrong, without having some contenders that they are eyeing.

Find out what her "boyfriend" means to her. Find out if she just likes to have a lot of friends and didn't mean anything by giving you her number, which btw, she knows exactly why you asked for it. Find out if she rather just give a number than having to reject you. Very early to tell. Keep us posted.

 

[blinkwatt]

Oh man this is problem I have ran into lately. Naturally beautiful women are taken,but yet they still show interest in me.

Twice in the past three months this has happened.

First women, she went out several times and called me none stop,text me and she still does till this day(just not as much as I dont answer or respond to her). She wouldn't let me kino it up much. I told her to stop playing around and wasting my time. When she is ready to handle me then I will give her the time of day. By the way she was one of those that everyone dropped their jaws at,no makeup,no fancy hair,just beautiful with a nice athletic body.

Now the second one occured not too long ago. About a month ago I direct approached a women at my job,THE MOST NATURALLY BEAUTIFUL WOMEN I HAVE MET & HAVE EVER SEEN PEROID! Her jaw basically dropped when I introduced myself to her,"Hey I'm going to honest with you,I thought you were really attractive and I wasn't going to miss the change to meet you. I'm blinkwatt" (extended hand). She blushed and hesitated so bad,I won't forget it anytime soon. I didn't number close,had to bail boss was coming,told her it was nice to meet you and left. A month passed(vacation and my hours changed) and I finally saw her. I noticed that she back tracked in my store to where I was,were I can see her,possibly to get in my site so I approached her. Boy oh boy she was happy to talk to me and she mentioned that I should help her out. I helped her out and just blabbered away and asked me about my job, and how she doesn't normally let anyone help her out,I'm the first. I figured "screw it I'm getting her number,even though I know she has a boyfriend". Well the time came to ask her,and she mentioned how she has a boyfriend and is honest. Oh well,I should have said,"Ah ok,you know what,your honest,I like that,ok ok...no number,just email." I'm sure that would have worked, meh,live and learn. Now her being honest only makes me want her more. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...I guess that's how the cookie crumbles.

Both women showed interest in me,ALOT may I add. Heck I even went out with one a few times.

Its annoying,fun,frustrating,interesting,makes you think....It's LIFE.

 

[bingo_]

i think she actually wanted me to ask her for her number by the way she was acting. her body language showed me she was attracted. i mean there were times where i was silent for a few seconds and she would try hard to keep the conversation going. she didn't once stop. she was almost talking more.

lol blink. poor fella... i'm always attracted to taken girls. and when do i call her!? hate phones >=/

 

[blinkwatt]

i think she actually wanted me to ask her for her number by the way she was acting. her body language showed me she was attracted. i mean there were times where i was silent for a few seconds and she would try hard to keep the conversation going. she didn't once stop. she was almost talking more.

Hahaha,they both did that,never a moment of silence,they always tried to keep the conversation going.

lol blink. poor fella...

Not poor fella,I will build rapport as she comes in over time, and keep building from there.

i'm always attracted to taken girls. and when do i call her!? hate phones >=/

Look at it this way;If you met a girl,she was interested in you and vica versa and she got your number. Now would you mind her calling you anytime?(Keep it reasonable) If they are interested they never mind anytime you call.

 

[bingo_]

very true man. good point.i wouldn't mind at all when a cute girl calls me! hell, she can call me as soon as i walk off!

forgot to mention... rarely do i get this; "oh my name is blah blah btw!" half way through the conversation. she said that and that definately shows some kind of interest. if i was talking to some fat ugly girl i wouldn't tell her that! i'd give her my mcdonalds coupon and say "GET!"

 

[blinkwatt]

very true man. good point.i wouldn't mind at all when a cute girl calls me! hell, she can call me as soon as i walk off!

Remember though,don't talk to her forever. Quick rapport and set up the date,try to keep it short as much as you can.

 

[bingo_]

Remember though,don't talk to her forever. Quick rapport and set up the date,try to keep it short as much as you can.

yep! gives us more to talk about on the date

 

[bingo_]

couldn't help myself and ended up txt'n her. lol... anyway, i think if someone likes you enough they won't care if it's a txt or a call. i sent it about 8pm saying: "hey ***, it's ***. when is our next counselling session? lol. jokes i really enjoyed our conversation today and i'd like to continue it sometime soon."

no reply... until;

11pm, beep beep... i got a txt back. it said:

"***, it's ***'s boy friend id appreciate it if you didnt try to msg or try to catch up with her anymore. Id hate to think what would come of it"

i replied:

"what's this? you sound a bit jealous. we are just friends anyway. easy tiger."

he replied:

"Just dont do it, i dont care what you think you have going, but i certainly dont think it is as innocent as your making out"

i left it as that. i'm not sure if it really is the boyfriend or her. but i was thinking about giving her a call later this afternoon. from what i've seen in these txt messages, it seems she maybe doesn't want him and he controls her... sounds a bit agressive. she even told me he was borrowing her car. now he has her phone? and why message back so late... do they live together? i'm not sure what to do... should i leave this alone... any ideas?

 

[Cod3r]

I really do feel sorry for guys like you... I'm not being rude as you seem like a nice guy but just don't get it. For one your mindframe is totally wrong, you've made too much of one conversation... yes she was kinda interested (as you say) and you're interested cool... why do you have to piss your pants to take to another level soo quickly ??? Just seems really desperate

Needy guy = get a number, call it !!

Playa = get number, throw it away...

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Just for practice you should do this bro (i did it and its worked for me) Approach someone REALLY desireable and #close them, then as you're walking away ball it up and throw it in the nearest trashcan. Do this a few times to take away the 'needy' feeling...

a real playa has enough skill and attractiveness that any particular girl (looks wise) could easily be replaced, so a number is nothing big... call it, or throw it away it has the same value....

Basically no surprises here, live and learn tho... live and learn



-Cod3r

 

[gsxtreme1987]

one thing ive learned is to never text when you can call.

and that is one reason. Id rather talk to sumone than type sumtin and WAIT for them to response.

i think you should call her and then if her boyfriend picks up then let it go. but still keep in touch wid her just incase..

 

[bingo_]

Cod3r i ain't needy. i just find it very hard to find a decent girl like this. i know when to step away and when not to cross the desperate line. i wasn't being desperate at all. i just told her i enjoyed our conversation, that was it. i could see it in her eyes that there was something goin on, you can just tell when you talk to someone. i really think if someone likes you they don't care when you call or txt. that's just a stupid theory, together with that wait three day bullsh!t. if she doesn't like me for msg'ing then i wouldn't wanna know her anymore. that's a bit silly.

 

[blinkwatt]

Needy guy = get a number, call it !!



Not true at all! The only time I would say to not call a chick would be within the first few hours that you met her,ie 24 hours. Trust me,if they are digging you it doesn't matter. One chick that I met,referred to earlier in this post(first one with a boyfriend),I called her one day after getting her number and we were hanging out a hour later. I didn't even suggest hanging out,she did.

 

[bingo_]

yeah, that's what i'm saying. it's like you... would you suddenly just forget about a girl you really liked just because she TXT you!? or called the same day? that is very fuking silly. if someone likes you they don't care.

 

[Cod3r]

Cod3r i ain't needy. i just find it very hard to find a decent girl like this.

You had a 10 minute conversation and she's already a 'decent girl' ?? You talked about her major and showed her how to use the copy-machine... if that's your idea of decent then my man I could introduce you to some girls you'd find PERFECT...

Just seems if you weren't needy you wouldn't be considering continuing with this girl after her boyfriend contacted you and said stop, which is foolish of you to even consider the possibilities... he stole her phone or he's controlling her and took the phone away... when you have a complex problem, the solution is usually the SIMPLEST aka... she gave the phone to her boyfriend to laugh at you or she pretended to be her bf to get you to stop calling as she's not interested... get a clue

yeah, that's what i'm saying. it's like you... would you suddenly just forget about a girl you really liked just because she TXT you!? or called the same day? that is very fuking silly. if someone likes you they don't care.

Then obviously she dosen't like you like you thought she did... but who cares you'll strike up another 10 min. convo with the next girl and i'm sure she'll be just as decent and you can see where that one goes...


Again no disrespect at all bro, but you've made too much out of one conversation, let it go...



-Cod3r

 

[Nighthawk]

I agree that you have qualified this chick as 'decent' and 'not a slut' too quickly. There are a lot of manipulative women out there who have got their sweet and innocent act down pat.

Even if she is a 'nice girl' she wants c*ck - my tip is to build attraction in her by teasing her about her shy girl facade and how it fools all the other men but not you.

 

[bingo_]

i just called her before and no answer. i'll leave it alone. she'll see that i called.