Always take red flags seriously - A cautionary tale

[tksniper]

A couple of years ago I was spinning plates without a care in the world. However, there was this one particular chick that was attractive but she seemed a little too willing to meet up and literally do whatever I wanted. If I presented a sexual idea or position, she would agree without any protest. My intuition told me there was something desperate about her so I backed off. I was 37 at the time and she was 19, but the fact that she was so willing threw me off.

Fast forward to a few years later, I see her in some news publication. Apparently she ran away from home with some random guy. Her family described her as someone who was always in the chats/social media communicating with random men. In her social media, she constantly talked about how much she hated her life and wanted an escape. And I was like “OMG. Thank God I took her red flag seriously.” My conversations with her was on Facebook back in 2021. And I clearly ghosted her. And I still have the convo saved just in case I get contacted.

Getting laid is great and all and sleeping with someone half my age would have been an ego boost. But today I thank my lucky stars that at least one of my values is avoiding desperate/needy/unhinged females. I’ve seen too many stories of guys where their lives were ruined because of some unhinged female.

My story is an extreme example. But the principle is still the same. Only have relations with women that are high value and self loving. Otherwise there will be consequences you couldn’t ever imagine.

I was shocked when I read about her a few years ago. And till this day I’m still traumatized by any woman who appears needy/desperate/borderline unhinged.

It’s gotten to the point now where if a woman is acting insecure and feels the need to get my attention by flirting with another guy - I’m running for the hills. Any slight sign of neediness is a red flag and I’m bolting faster than Usain Bolt.

 

[The Duke]

You play this game long enough and you will run into a few like this.
All I used to care about was if they were hot and fun. If they checked those boxes it was game on.

I've had one invite me over for sex hours after getting her number on a dating site. After we had sex she claimed I used her and she sent angry,hateful texts for days. 2wks later she wants to meet up for sex again.

Another accused me of banging her friend, got mad, left my place and threatened to drive off an overpass. Hours later the police take her to the crazy house lock up and she tries to blame it all on me. Even got a call from the cops.

 

[tksniper]

You play this game long enough and you will run into a few like this.
All I used to care about was if they were hot and fun. If they checked those boxes it was game on.

I've had one invite me over for sex hours after getting her number on a dating site. After we had sex she claimed I used her and she sent angry,hateful texts for days. 2wks later she wants to meet up for sex again.

Another accused me of banging her friend, got mad, left my place and threatened to drive off an overpass. Hours later the police take her to the crazy house lock up and she tries to blame it all on me. Even got a call from the cops.

Yeah man I think this post alludes to a bigger truth. You can’t make up for a well balanced life by being some crazy seducer. You can’t be unbalanced in one area and be balanced everywhere else. That mentality comes from neediness and it will only attract other people who are equally as needy in their own way, and that could potentially lead to trouble.

I think a well balanced life comes from being competent in your career, being authentic in your friendships, relationships, and family matters, being physically active, and genuinely being a good person in society. Basically representing God the best way you can, whatever that looks like for you. That’s just my belief.

Anytime I’ve strayed away from harmony and synergy with universal principles, I would manifest the absolute worse scenarios.

And once you are in balance/harmony/synergy with the world, people who are out of harmony stand out to you in the most obvious ways.

 

[Solomon]

Totally agree sometimes if it's to easy you gotta stop and think. Had a crazy chick a couple months ago, I met of a dating app first night we hook up she says "I love you" I know she is trying to love bomb and manipulate me but after the 2nd time I had to ghost her when she asked me to "Take care of her son" mind you right after she gargled my kids.

Gotta dodge those bullets like Neo if you see'em

 

[Solomon]

Getting laid is great and all and sleeping with someone half my age would have been an ego boost. But today I thank my lucky stars that at least one of my values is avoiding desperate/needy/unhinged females. I’ve seen too many stories of guys where their lives were ruined because of some unhinged female.

My story is an extreme example. But the principle is still the same. Only have relations with women that are high value and self loving. Otherwise there will be consequences you couldn’t ever imagine.

I was shocked when I read about her a few years ago. And till this day I’m still traumatized by any woman who appears needy/desperate/borderline unhinged.

It’s gotten to the point now where if a woman is acting insecure and feels the need to get my attention by flirting with another guy - I’m running for the hills. Any slight sign of neediness is a red flag and I’m bolting faster than Usain Bolt.

Going back to this, honestly, OP your story isn't extreme it sounds like a young girl who hates her homelife and looking for an older man who is established and provides security etc. I know there are stories far worse than this heck int he last 5 years I gotta few.

One thing I will say as you get older you start to recognize red flags better because you start to notice a pattern with certain women. Women who are desperate are typically going to try to hard, will say things that are odd or push your boundaries etc. I don't mind needy women as long as they are not annoying but unhinged women can eff up your life.

OP i'm the same as you if I deal with a woman, especially 30+ then yeah i'm quit to bolt like Usain as well funny enough the younger women I have dealt with int he last few years MOST not all have been more mature than the older ones. Covid made these broads go crazy and mark my words there will be another lockdown

 

[plumber]

You play this game long enough and you will run into a few like this.
All I used to care about was if they were hot and fun. If they checked those boxes it was game on.

I've had one invite me over for sex hours after getting her number on a dating site. After we had sex she claimed I used her and she sent angry,hateful texts for days. 2wks later she wants to meet up for sex again.

Another accused me of banging her friend, got mad, left my place and threatened to drive off an overpass. Hours later the police take her to the crazy house lock up and she tries to blame it all on me. Even got a call from the cops.

if that happens these days in US, they go to a shelter. you you will for sure have problems. avoiding them is worth the loss.