always putting one girl on pedestal no matter what i do

[theory of knowledge]

before i found the dj way, i put every woman on a pedestal...now, i no longer do that, but there is always one girl, the most desirable one for me, that i unconsciously put on the pedestal--i can have other relationships (i do) and passions (i do)...but everytime i come to this person, i begin to try harder and get nervous...etc etc

how do i fight that?

she shows all the interest signs, but i have trouble getting sexual and confident or even ask her out...i keep on telling myself that i will take her out when i get a car, meet more people, or learn how to surf/dance...i am escalating kino with her now, but i only become 50% relaxed when we go dancing--she was trying to teach me how to dance.

i thought about nexting her, and i'll probably just try to escalate as much as possible and see how it goes. if doesn't work out, oh well.

 

[AngelusPUA]

You subconsciously put her on a pedestal not unconsciously……..

The only way to stop it is by working on yourself; once you become totally content with yourself the only person on a pedestal will be you because you will know no women can ever match you.

 

[Tomatoes]

The is one word we use on these forums that discribes what you have said above theory.......


Its called oneitis and its a very hard thing to overcome. Some people never do. Pedistooling a particular girl.


As for the girl. She sounds abit like a prick tease. The best advice i can give on that is what you have already said......Test it.....Take a leap of faith and see if your wasting your time or not. Then you can either be with her or next her.


Sarge On!

 

[theory of knowledge]

oneitis is when you pine away at one girl right?

i am actively fighting oneitis by seeing other girls, and pursuing my studies, weight lifting, and foreign languages

but even if i am with another girl or when i am studying german, i still think about this one girl...its like WTF, can't you get out of my mind please