Always me doing the asking??

[Glenfiddich101]

Hi

During the past few months, i've been meeting quite a number of women and going on dates.

However, it seems that most times, its always me asking to meet up. I can understand if its the 1st or 2nd date, but is it a lack of interest if i'm still inititating the after the 2nd date?

They dont seem to be lonely when out with me. Lots of laughter and kino so i'm not sure what i'm doing wrong. Next em?

 

[bp1974]

I think it's normal for the men to initiate for the first few dates.

It's also easy to set up a pattern that becomes hard to change. I know women who get so used to the guy calling them, that if he stops calling, they worry about him losing interest without it occurring to them to call him. Once I point it out to them, they realise it's ok to break the pattern that's been established.

Are you making it past the 2nd dates?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Rigt On BP174,

Judge her IL more by her actions when you're with her than her actions when you're not together. I was just talking to some girl who practically confessed her feelings for me about a year ago. We stopped hanging out because I felt she started to "run away" from me. Last nite we were discussing why we haven't seen each other, I asked "Where have you been lately?" She responds "Here, where I've always been. It takes two, that's all I have to say." LoL. Some of these chicks are wired to act certain way, when you break the norm, they think you have lost interest.

I know it doesn't sound logical or fair, but then again, when it comes to women, nothing does. Haha. Look at it this way, would you rather be the girl and be in her shoes? Nah, I didn't think so. If after you've bed them, they are not calling you back, then you know they didn't like the ride; otherwise I wouldn't worry about it.

 

[Glenfiddich101]

Thanks for the great words of wisdom guys. I guess i would rather do the asking then waiting to be asked. Its easy to interpret their lack of initiative as lack of IL, but then again as GOL put it, nothing is fair when it comes to chicks.

bp1974, out of the 5 women that i dated, 4 i met more than twice, one was attached.

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