"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"Always Go By What a Woman Does vs. Says"... Can it be Applied in Reverse?

bigneil

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So she told you she likes you but wouldn't go out with you. Or she said you were good looking but then wouldn't kiss you. In those cases we apply one of the most important DJ rules: Always go by what a women DOES and not what she SAYS. (Actions speak louder than words).

However, one thing I've noticed is that the actual application of the rule seems to only apply when it's negative. In the (not unlikely) case(s) where she says she doesn't want to have sex but does anyway (or similar examples), shouldn't we apply the same rule but in a positive way? If it were someone else she said she didn't like but still slept with anyway, we'd certainly apply the rule then, but what about when it's us she reverses her position for?

Or is the rule actually "Apply the WORST of what she says and does"? That seems like the wrong attitude IMO.

Do you have any examples of this rule being applied in a good way? Although I have many such examples I find that I still dwell on the negative aspect of her duality.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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While we should take flaking seriously (especially before a date or sex has happened), we need to be confident enough not to give up just because of one flake. Simply having no reaction and waiting for them to contact us (and when appropriate politely calling them on their BS) and walking away until she reels us back is often the best strategy. Chances are, you caught her at a low point after seeing her at a high point, and if you just wait her moods will normalize. A woman's moods (often deliberately) follow a sinusoidal curve. If you try to battle her at the low points it does damage.

Getting too upset is an overreaction that makes us appear to lack confidence also - it will appear to her as if lots of women have flaked on us so we're touchy.
 

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The rule is actually pretty simple. Pay no heed to what she says, period. Whether her comments are positive, negative or neutral does not matter. The only accurate predictor of her future behavior is her past behavior.
 

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actions speak louder with words, and that is a thousand percent true with women.

If she says she kinda likes you, or doesn't want a relationship, but then one night you bang her, what does that tell you?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm referring, for one example, to my post where the girl said "Don't kiss me" before submitting completely but a lot of people said it was still bad. It seems like the forum errs on the side of worst case scenario.
 

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bigneil said:
I'm referring, for one example, to my post where the girl said "Don't kiss me" before submitting completely but a lot of people said it was still bad. It seems like the forum errs on the side of worst case scenario.
why else would people come running to the internet for answers?

it normally is the worst case scenario.
 

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Most men pay more attention to the negatives and they usually end up happening.

Actions speak louder than words.
 
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