"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"Always Go By What a Woman Does vs. Says"... Can it be Applied in Reverse?

bigneil

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So she told you she likes you but wouldn't go out with you. Or she said you were good looking but then wouldn't kiss you. In those cases we apply one of the most important DJ rules: Always go by what a women DOES and not what she SAYS. (Actions speak louder than words).

However, one thing I've noticed is that the actual application of the rule seems to only apply when it's negative. In the (not unlikely) case(s) where she says she doesn't want to have sex but does anyway (or similar examples), shouldn't we apply the same rule but in a positive way? If it were someone else she said she didn't like but still slept with anyway, we'd certainly apply the rule then, but what about when it's us she reverses her position for?

Or is the rule actually "Apply the WORST of what she says and does"? That seems like the wrong attitude IMO.

Do you have any examples of this rule being applied in a good way? Although I have many such examples I find that I still dwell on the negative aspect of her duality.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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While we should take flaking seriously (especially before a date or sex has happened), we need to be confident enough not to give up just because of one flake. Simply having no reaction and waiting for them to contact us (and when appropriate politely calling them on their BS) and walking away until she reels us back is often the best strategy. Chances are, you caught her at a low point after seeing her at a high point, and if you just wait her moods will normalize. A woman's moods (often deliberately) follow a sinusoidal curve. If you try to battle her at the low points it does damage.

Getting too upset is an overreaction that makes us appear to lack confidence also - it will appear to her as if lots of women have flaked on us so we're touchy.
 

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The rule is actually pretty simple. Pay no heed to what she says, period. Whether her comments are positive, negative or neutral does not matter. The only accurate predictor of her future behavior is her past behavior.
 

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actions speak louder with words, and that is a thousand percent true with women.

If she says she kinda likes you, or doesn't want a relationship, but then one night you bang her, what does that tell you?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm referring, for one example, to my post where the girl said "Don't kiss me" before submitting completely but a lot of people said it was still bad. It seems like the forum errs on the side of worst case scenario.
 

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bigneil said:
I'm referring, for one example, to my post where the girl said "Don't kiss me" before submitting completely but a lot of people said it was still bad. It seems like the forum errs on the side of worst case scenario.
why else would people come running to the internet for answers?

it normally is the worst case scenario.
 

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Most men pay more attention to the negatives and they usually end up happening.

Actions speak louder than words.
 
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