"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Always go by a females actions, not words.. Sad story

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A co-worker at the hospital has been married to his wife a for a little over a year. I believe the courtship was 3 or 4 years. He's been flying high with rose colored glasses it seems, as she seemed to had changed during the last year or so I am told. She's apparently hit him a couple of times and apparently even told him she doesn't really know if she wants to have a family with him. It seems the final blow was when she apparently told him she wants to stay married to him, but wants to allow other people in to the marriage for both of them. He's losing it and we had to talk him down from the proverbial ledge. He's going to see a lawyer and file for divorce. They have nothing, so it should be pretty easy to drop her, but she can cause some legal fees if she wants to make it hard on him.

It so important that you dudes vent your LTR or future wife. A female's opinion of you changes like the wind. When it changes negatively, you leave. This dude is prob. going to need some therapy, but it's doubtful he'll look at females the same moving forward. The scar will heal, but the damage is done. It's a shame too. The dude basically raised himself. Put himself through school, had no real family to fall back on. He's had other females, as he's not that young at 34, but you can see he's in utter shock and dismayed at the whole situation. Females can be cruel and they do not even know that they are doing it half the time.

Be careful dudes. And remember, should you ever consider to marry any female, you get that cohabitation agreement and pre-nup. Most important thing to have in the pre-nup; aside from separate accounts will remain separate, and commingled accounts are marital is that each party pays for their own legal and court fees.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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That’s nothing. I know of a guy who moved to Mexico because he thought escaping the states was a good idea. He has 4/5 kids with another on the way. Anyhow as I suspected reality hit real hard and the wife left him in the middle of the night, took all his money and credit/debit cards and he’s stranded in Mexico. The worst part? He still loves her. I’ll be very surprised if he makes it out of there alive.

the reality is we live in fairly civilized countries even with everything going on. Some parts of the world are truly lawless and run by cartels who weren’t founded by any civilized moral code.

It’s tragic
 

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That’s nothing. I know of a guy who moved to Mexico because he thought escaping the states was a good idea. He has 4/5 kids with another on the way. Anyhow as I suspected reality hit real hard and the wife left him in the middle of the night, took all his money and credit/debit cards and he’s stranded in Mexico. The worst part? He still loves her. I’ll be very surprised if he makes it out of there alive.

the reality is we live in fairly civilized countries even with everything going on. Some parts of the world are truly lawless and run by cartels who weren’t founded by any civilized moral code.

It’s tragic
Sad. So sad.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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