Lately I was in a situation that was kind of interesting. What happened was that I had been out shopping in another city and had bought a return ticket for the train. My ticket did not get inspected during the trip, so theoretically it could be used again by another person that day (it was worth about 10 euro's).
Since I'm a nice guy and I was in a good mood I checked at the ticket machines if there were people who wanted to go to the city I had just visited. The first person I saw was a really nice girl who seemed a bit in a hurry. I offered her my ticket and she indeed happened to be heading for that particular city. When I offered her the ticket she first could hardly believe it and then seemed kind of delighted. She asked 'Is that for me?!!' and also said this was really convenient for her because otherwise she would probably have missed her train (because of slow ticket machines). I said 'okay' and wished her a good trip, after which I basically turned my back on her and went my own way.
This was kind of interesting because I have seldomly seen a girl - or person for that matter - being so genuinely happy about something. This is understandable, it was a free lunch for her. I wanted nothing in return at that stage. Also, the fact it was a cute girl only was a coincidence, I was really thinking of other things than picking up girls at that day. Only from a backwards perspective I find it a bit funny that the girl probably thought I was cool in some way and I could have gotten more/something out of it. Point is however that part of my value came from the fact that I didn't want something out of it. I just don't like to bin something which another person possibly can still use. It is somewhat of a catch 22 situation
I think sometimes it is good to do things without wanting something out of it, apart maybe from feeling good about yourself as a reward. So it's not that I now have regrets that I haven't fully taken advantage of the situation. It's just that I think it's funny that the girl was so happy but that I did not do anything with it or maybe was not even able to do anything with it without spoiling the vibe that made the whole thing so nice to begin with.
I don't really have a question, just wanted to share this little situation.
Since I'm a nice guy and I was in a good mood I checked at the ticket machines if there were people who wanted to go to the city I had just visited. The first person I saw was a really nice girl who seemed a bit in a hurry. I offered her my ticket and she indeed happened to be heading for that particular city. When I offered her the ticket she first could hardly believe it and then seemed kind of delighted. She asked 'Is that for me?!!' and also said this was really convenient for her because otherwise she would probably have missed her train (because of slow ticket machines). I said 'okay' and wished her a good trip, after which I basically turned my back on her and went my own way.
This was kind of interesting because I have seldomly seen a girl - or person for that matter - being so genuinely happy about something. This is understandable, it was a free lunch for her. I wanted nothing in return at that stage. Also, the fact it was a cute girl only was a coincidence, I was really thinking of other things than picking up girls at that day. Only from a backwards perspective I find it a bit funny that the girl probably thought I was cool in some way and I could have gotten more/something out of it. Point is however that part of my value came from the fact that I didn't want something out of it. I just don't like to bin something which another person possibly can still use. It is somewhat of a catch 22 situation
I think sometimes it is good to do things without wanting something out of it, apart maybe from feeling good about yourself as a reward. So it's not that I now have regrets that I haven't fully taken advantage of the situation. It's just that I think it's funny that the girl was so happy but that I did not do anything with it or maybe was not even able to do anything with it without spoiling the vibe that made the whole thing so nice to begin with.
I don't really have a question, just wanted to share this little situation.