Alright, time to be completely honest with myself

[bigdave17]

all situations are perfect for asking her out...

Yea if you're okay with a 99% rejection rate

I'm trying to see if there's anything there before I get my head kicked in

 

[MrWood]

if you were a boxer you would be 0-99 with that attitude..
actually you wouldn't be a boxer, just a gym rat with envy at the boxers actually fighting (winning and loosing)

Dave, you present yourself as driving a 800HP 200mph Can-Am car... yet you seem to be driving that car in a 600HP 150mph GT race.
To be honest, give you 800 more HP and you still only have driving ability to compete against the GT class.
Watch F1 and you see lots of guys last a couple of years, if that... where they were championship winning drivers in F3, and likely can be for several more years
Watch USAC Sprints.. some drivers go to NASCAR, only to fail horribly... and go back to the Sprints and succeed

its not the power of the car (looks, physique, status), but the skill of the driver.

To finish first, you first have to finish (and enter the race)
-Sterling Moss

 

[mrgoodstuff]

What is it about rejection that you're so insecure about?

Lack of true abundance so he'll feel an ego sting. I asked him to start having sex with one of the more attractive babes he think is beneath him. When he has a girl the rejection won't bother him. Plus it kills his neediness.

 

[Red Legg]

You literally invented a false sense of low self esteem to hide your enormous narcissistic belief that you deserve way more than you do and absolve yourself from swallowing your pride and risk rejection

May everyone with an "entitlement mentality" burn.

 

[zekko]

Lack of true abundance so he'll feel an ego sting.

One of the things that Tyler from RSD says is to kill your ego. If you have a big ego, you don't have the sense of humility to accept that you are not special. It's not who you are, it's the amount of work you are willing to put in. If you think you are all that, you don't think you have to self improve. If you think you have all the answers, you're not going to listen to other people. If you think the world owes you the best, you will sit and wait for it to be delivered to you rather than going out and getting it.

Conversely, if you suffer from poor self esteem, you don't want to expose your self to getting hurt, you aren't willing to put yourself out there and be vulnerable. The ego gets in the way.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

One of the things that Tyler from RSD says is to kill your ego. If you have a big ego, you don't have the sense of humility to accept that you are not special. It's not who you are, it's the amount of work you are willing to put in. If you think you are all that, you don't think you have to self improve. If you think you have all the answers, you're not going to listen to other people. If you think the world owes you the best, you will sit and wait for it to be delivered to you rather than going out and getting it.

Conversely, if you suffer from poor self esteem, you don't want to expose your self to getting hurt, you aren't willing to put yourself out there and be vulnerable. The ego gets in the way.

Ego isn't always a bad thing.

His main problem is he thinks he's too good for so many people. Plus he's not listening .

Women dread a sex-starved male.

Be can be calm and non needy, non outcome dependant if he starts having sex with one of his more attractive current options.

Plus his current friends frame with these "hot" chicks is not working out for him.

His long checklist puts the ones he thinks he wants on a huge pedastal. His huge priority on his looks and his feeling he's better than everyone makes him a try hard around the babes he desire, and not a fun vibe for folks.

 

[Roober]

Something is missing inside you dave, it's time to stop creating new threads and go look for it.

You are obviously seeking the answers here and looking for attention. The artof charm describes human motivation as a drive for attention, approval, or acceptance. Whenever one of these is in abundance, you risk the possibility of supplication. If your attention seeking behavior is so blatantly obvious to a bunch of complete strangers on a message board, how do you think it looks to quality women?

You have all of the superficial tools to get women, but just need the meat and potatoes.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Something is missing inside you dave, it's time to stop creating new threads and go look for it.

You are obviously seeking the answers here and looking for attention. The artof charm describes human motivation as a drive for attention, approval, or acceptance. Whenever one of these is in abundance, you risk the possibility of supplication. If your attention seeking behavior is so blatantly obvious to a bunch of complete strangers on a message board, how do you think it looks to quality women?

You have all of the superficial tools to get women, but just need the meat and potatoes.

A consistent source of sex will fix a ton of his issues.

 

[zekko]

His main problem is he thinks he's too good for so many people. Plus he's not listening .

Both examples of a big ego trying to protect itself. As is outcome dependence.
But I agree ego isn't always a bad thing. A healthy ego can be a good thing.
Getting rid of the ego is one of those Eastern/Buddhist ideas that Owen pushes.
I don't buy into all of it, but I agree with some of it

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Both examples of a big ego trying to protect itself. As is outcome dependence.
But I agree ego isn't always a bad thing. A healthy ego can be a good thing.
Getting rid of the ego is one of those Eastern/Buddhist ideas that Owen pushes.
I don't buy into all of it, but I agree with some of it

I just know some of my endeavors and ego is required to perform at a high level, if it thinks too highly of itself it becomes a problem . A healthy and strong self esteem and self image is required .

He is protecting his current mindset. He is trying to force his way to work . I feel he can crush his goals, but he needs to stop protecting his current mindset and adopt a SUCCESSFUL mindset for dealing with ladies in 2018.

Plus he needs to be having sex, Im going to keep hammering that point down his throat.