Alright Playas, Need Some Experienced Opinions

[Bunk 040]

You aint gotta be that direct but dont sugarcoat it. It is what it is. You wanna **** with her.

Tell her you been feeling her and you can tell she feeling you so yall should see where a relationship could go. Even though you dont wanna risk a good friendship it could be a even better relationship.

Something like that, they like that emotional, feely type ****.

 

[DavenJuan]

Originally posted by CollegeEJ
She told me today that most of her friends are guy friends, so maybe she was more interested in being friends all along.

There wasnt a bunch of other "guy friends" in the hot tub with you was there? Sad part is, she probably does have a bunch of friends as guys. But dont put yourself in that catagory.

you had multiple opportunities to close the deal and once those are blown its hard to recoup any chance of her not thinkin' your a lame...but pull the trigger next time you get...simple as that. thats if you even have another.

Originally posted by bunk 040
Not at all. You make a whole thread about her, asks questions about her, and you scared to tell her you wanna mess with her. Yall dudes on here are just too scary to get somewhere, that ****s pathetic

not the greatest positive feedback

 

[collegeEJ]

That sounds pretty good but I guess I'm a little reluctant to throw myself out there because of her boyfriend. Plus, she helps me out a lot in our class that I'm struggling in and I don't want her to be like "we're just friends" and not have that help anymore.

I feel like I'm better looking than her boyfriend and probably have more to offer, so you think it's worth the risk??

 

[collegeEJ]

btw, we were the only ones in the hot tub. I know I should have tried to close, but we meet up to do homework tomorrow...

 

[Bunk 040]

you had multiple opportunities to close the deal and once those are blown its hard to recoup any chance of her not thinkin' your a lame...but pull the trigger next time you get...simple as that. thats if you even have another.

This **** aint good feedback at all. Yall worry about what they think too much, the same time yall worrying bout they thoughts they worrying twice as much about yalls. If they really like you.
Anyway its good you aint "pull the trigger" that quick, that's why they always say "lets be friends" when you dont get all close to em that quick, cause they feel rejected and want the upperhand. And you got plenty of chances, you can talk a female into anything, if you on my level.

 

[Bunk 040]

btw, we were the only ones in the hot tub. I know I should have tried to close, but we meet up to do homework tomorrow...

It depends on what you mean by close. Dont try and **** her.

 

[collegeEJ]

Naw man, I was thinking more along the lines of while we're doing our homework being like "man, I really like your lips" and wait to see if her response is good...then being like "i can't lie to you, I've kinda wanted been wanting to kiss you."

What you think bro??

 

[Bunk 040]

Naw man, I was thinking more along the lines of while we're doing our homework being like "man, I really like your lips" and wait to see if her response is good...then being like "i can't lie to you, I've kinda wanted been wanting to kiss you."

What you think bro??

Hell naw, if she got a boyfriend she aint gon kiss ****. Talk to her about being together. Just talk about it, get her thinking about it and liking the idea and then avoid her for a couple days.

 

[collegeEJ]

It's wierd though, me thinking all this **** out and posting about it, but this girl's different than other girls, cause I just can't seem to read this girl for anything. One minute I think she's into me, the next I'm not so sure.:crazy:

 

[DavenJuan]

originally posted by Bunk 040
Yall worry about what they think too much, the same time yall worrying bout they thoughts they worrying twice as much about yalls

i agree to an extent with this..shouldnt really give to much thought about what shes "wanting/feeling/ blah blah" ...just do it without thinking..if she doesnt want you then she will tell you to stop. We spend more time wandering what couldve been, when you couldve had that part figured out by now.

originall posted by Bunk 040
Anyway its good you aint "pull the trigger" that quick, that's why they always say "lets be friends" when you dont get all close to em that quick

totally disagree ....NEVER HESITATE...go for the kill, what else do you need, ..she sits with you at the bus stop, she takes you home, she calls you , texts you...HOT TUB ALONE....she might as well sat on your face and opened up

 

[collegeEJ]

I think I might try that though. Throw myself out there a little, let her know that I've been feeling her and see how she reacts. It would be wierd for me, cause usually I try and avoid relationships, but I would try one with this girl.

Usually, I just make my move, smash, keep it going for as long as I can and avoid any titles, if you know what I mean.

 

[Bunk 040]

It's wierd though, me thinking all this **** out and posting about it, but this girl's different than other girls, cause I just can't seem to read this girl for anything. One minute I think she's into me, the next I'm not so sure.:crazy:

Hell naw. That's why it's good to talk to females and not just think about it. But don't talk like a beggy, lame as dude. Just see where her head at.

Like I can't really relate to chasing females because they usually chase me. I ignore they calls, get annoyed by'em easily sometimes. I don't know, but just holla at her and see what's good.

 

[Bunk 040]

totally disagree ....NEVER HESITATE...go for the kill, what else do you need, ..she sits with you at the bus stop, she takes you home, she calls you , texts you...HOT TUB ALONE....she might as well sat on your face and opened up

lol...i feel you

 

[collegeEJ]

I dont know about that DAVENJUAN. Like I said she has a lot of guy friends and might just feel real comfortable around guys. She never really made any initiation, even though I know it's my job, but still.

I still have this suspicion that she just sees me as a friend and is really comfortable around me. I hope I'm wrong though. I'll find out soon enough though.

 

[DavenJuan]

originally posted by collegeEJ
Throw myself out there a little, let her know that I've been feeling her and see how she reacts. It would be wierd for me, cause usually I try and avoid relationships, but I would try one with this girl.

wait wait.. before you go confessing your utter love for this girl, what are you trying to accomplish?

you telling her how you feel is already done. im pretty sure she knows already..now im not saying thats a bad thing to do, i just personally, would rather show her. make a move...

and the whole relationship thing doesnt seem to be a good idea. she already is cheating on her boyfriend even though she hasnt physically done anything. im sure she isnt telliing her bf that she is always with you, or in a hot tub with you, or whatever else you to do. ...bottom line....

save the convo, and make a move...no need to drag this on any further

 

[collegeEJ]

Man, I talked to her today before class and was like "so your boyfriend got jealous and didn't want you to come do homework with me saturday or what?"
and she was like "no I called you up and you didn't answer. I was wondering why you didn't call back. I should have left a v-mail." Then she said "no, my boyfriend can't be jealous cause most of my friends are guys."

That's what kinda threw me off and I'm thinking man, I hope you didn't put me in that friend category too.

 

[aussiegoat55]

you are talking crazy!! It is her who was disrespectful to her b/f by getting in the hot tub with you!! This tells you that she has no loyalty - she is a "easy" girl"!

Yep, she's looking around, no loyalty, and she may want to use you as a boy toy. The world is full of trickery, don't let your ego cloud judgement, use the gut as well. She's trying to reel you in. A real man would recognize she is no good, not loyal to her boyfriend. A chump would be delighted to hook up with her.

Anyway, I don't steal other chicks from guys, would not want that to happen to me, and I believe in the expression, bro's before hoe's.

 

[mofro]

Its called being friends. My gf fits this girl perfectly. Her best friend is a guy. I don't think he's into her though, but if he is who cares right?

Now if you want, tell her that her bf is lucky and you hope her the best (only say this if you mean it). This communicates that you think she's desirable in a non pervy way. She may just be the type of woman you'd ultimately want to marry, so just hope that her bf becomes a jackass or looses her interest, and you'll get your chance.

Worse comes to worse (unless you act like a perv which will repel her), you remain her friend and she'll help you get a gf of your own.

 

[collegeEJ]

mofro, don't take it out on me just because your girlfriend is cheating on you with her "best friend that's a guy.":rockon:

No, for real though, I appreciate the feedback from your perspective. It is really crazy to me the completely contradicting feedback I have gotten from this post. Everybody has their own interpretation of how things are and I'm still clueless. This might be the first and last time I seek advice on an internet board about a specific girl.

 

[MMA Juan]

It is really crazy to me the completely contradicting feedback I have gotten from this post.

College EJ,

You have made it clear that you have jeen interest in this girl. But it is you who is contradictory. You tell us you want her, but you can't do anything because you feel 'bad' to close in cause she's got a b/f.

You have to make a decision: if you want to pursue her then i can say what to do from here, if your gonna feel bad because of the b/f situation, then cut your losses and move on because your never gonna be able to make that close.