Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Alright guys, help me get over my oneitis.

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Not going to go into the details too much, so here's the cliffnotes:

1. The girl is moving away from the local area on Sunday.
2. The girl has a boyfriend of 2-3 years whom she was going to marry, but now they're both fighting alot and having second thoughts.
3. The boyfriend is planning to ask girl to marry him at a football game, but she has plans to go to school in a different state.
4. I am totally smitten with the girl despite having three years of knowing not to get into this situation (The good old "this one's special" syndrome).

Me and this girl made out and almost had sex last week on the day after him and her had a big fight. She stopped me.

Yes, I have regrets. I regret ignoring her on purpose at key times where we could have and would have hooked up and probably have been together now.

But I also think that I may have taken her for granted if I did indeed have her right now.

Plus I probably wouldn't have ever come to the realization that there are SO many single women out there that are just DYING to have a guy like me approach them.

But, I still have feelings for her.

I'm fighting emotions with logic here. It's pretty complicated. I'm jealous of the two of them, and I also know that's unreasonable thinking on my part, and quite insecure. I get that.

Yes, I know the solution. Which is to go out and screw a bunch of women to get over her.

So, I learned some VERY valuable lessons with this experience, and in the long term, it's going to serve me VERY well. In the short term, it hurts emotionally. I just can't wait for her to leave so I can move on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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scorpio1138 said:
Go out with your friends and have fun!
Ah, the thing is, me and her are going to be hanging out quite alot until she leaves.
 

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Vice said:
Ah, the thing is, me and her are going to be hanging out quite alot until she leaves.

Your only going to cause more pain for yourself once she's gone.
 

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Vice said:
Me and this girl made out and almost had sex last week on the day after him and her had a big fight. She stopped me.
you were the ego boost for her, make her feel wanted again....

Yes, I have regrets. I regret ignoring her on purpose at key times where we could have and would have hooked up and probably have been together now.

But I also think that I may have taken her for granted if I did indeed have her right now.
hmmm
Plus I probably wouldn't have ever come to the realization that there are SO many single women out there that are just DYING to have a guy like me approach them.
your such a catch! :rolleyes:

But, I still have feelings for her.

I'm fighting emotions with logic here. It's pretty complicated. I'm jealous of the two of them, and I also know that's unreasonable thinking on my part, and quite insecure. I get that.

Yes, I know the solution. Which is to go out and screw a bunch of women to get over her.
well at least the logic has turned up better late than never!
you know what to do so do it,- see other girls

you are still young (still a little kid really) if you proactivly hustle other women, soon you will have forgotten all about this chick
But if you dont get over her you will be stuck in a vicious-cycle of wanting unavaliable women

i suggest delete all way of contacting this girl, her no, fb friends, etc...etc

also she has low integrity by cheating !
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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