You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I agree with this. Also, to lump people into two seperate categories is absolutely obtuse. theres billions of men in the world. I guarantee that even the most "alpha of alphas" has days where they act somewhat "beta" or whatever you want to call it. Also, what may appear to one person to be "alpha" may to another person not seem that way.NewJack said:Its more useful to study actual men's lives than to study snapshots or thumbnail sketches.
There is no 'alpha' as of course you know. Its just a category someone made up.
Generally you will find high levels of social functioning (e.g. those shown by 'alphas') are impossible without some level of heart-connection to people in general. The more sociopathic types concentrate on external status markers while leaving a bad taste in the mouth of most people they deal with. So a confused onlooker could class both these types as 'alphas' but no one who knows them would actually put them together in the same category. My opinion.