"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rollo never answers my emails so I'm asking you guys for your take on this.

Are they a lost cause?

Have you ever managed to make one forget about the alpha before you? If so, how?

Is there a successful way to deal with these women?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dear Didgustipated,
The deification of a lost partner is part of grieving...As he isn't going to spring out of the cupboard to annoy you,why worry..
My principal Plate has phantasies about her past partner...sad really,but they just love to wallow in it don't they?
 
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Actually yes, he could spring out of the cupboard like a rat, drawn to the scent of free sex.

Move on, lost cause.
 
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disgustipated said:
Rollo never answers my emails so I'm asking you guys for your take on this.

Are they a lost cause?

Have you ever managed to make one forget about the alpha before you? If so, how?

Is there a successful way to deal with these women?
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No they are not a lost cause.
You can lock them in by overlaying some emotional hooks by basically using what the last alpha did. In essence if your alpha game is tight and you can take her on that emotional roller coaster ride, then add a layer of some kind of time constraint or 'losing you' it should anchor harder in her mind.

The problem is sustaining it. For LTR's alpha widows are damaged goods. If you haven't internalised the alpha mindset totally then it's an uphill battle.
Depends what your goal is in regards to what you want from them.
 
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You can't worry about this. Really, you can't. It's a mindset with a slippery slope that will do you no good.

As cliche as it is, worry about yourself. As in, be your own man. If, after a time, you don't become the new Alpha in her life, then move on. Nothing you can do. You should know, you can feel it, if it's not all there, and she's not 100%, then don't give 100% yourself. Simple as that.

Also, if you're worrying about it, then you haven't became the new one. Trust your gut.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Peaks&Valleys said:
You can't worry about this. Really, you can't. It's a mindset with a slippery slope that will do you no good.

As cliche as it is, worry about yourself. As in, be your own man. If, after a time, you don't become the new Alpha in her life, then move on. Nothing you can do. You should know, you can feel it, if it's not all there, and she's not 100%, then don't give 100% yourself. Simple as that.

Also, if you're worrying about it, then you haven't became the new one. Trust your gut.
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That is one amazing reply. From my limited experience, I can only say that no-one is worth wasting your time and life over. Just my two cents.
 
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