"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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disgustipated

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Rollo never answers my emails so I'm asking you guys for your take on this.

Are they a lost cause?

Have you ever managed to make one forget about the alpha before you? If so, how?

Is there a successful way to deal with these women?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dear Didgustipated,
The deification of a lost partner is part of grieving...As he isn't going to spring out of the cupboard to annoy you,why worry..
My principal Plate has phantasies about her past partner...sad really,but they just love to wallow in it don't they?
 
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Actually yes, he could spring out of the cupboard like a rat, drawn to the scent of free sex.

Move on, lost cause.
 
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disgustipated said:
Rollo never answers my emails so I'm asking you guys for your take on this.

Are they a lost cause?

Have you ever managed to make one forget about the alpha before you? If so, how?

Is there a successful way to deal with these women?
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No they are not a lost cause.
You can lock them in by overlaying some emotional hooks by basically using what the last alpha did. In essence if your alpha game is tight and you can take her on that emotional roller coaster ride, then add a layer of some kind of time constraint or 'losing you' it should anchor harder in her mind.

The problem is sustaining it. For LTR's alpha widows are damaged goods. If you haven't internalised the alpha mindset totally then it's an uphill battle.
Depends what your goal is in regards to what you want from them.
 
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You can't worry about this. Really, you can't. It's a mindset with a slippery slope that will do you no good.

As cliche as it is, worry about yourself. As in, be your own man. If, after a time, you don't become the new Alpha in her life, then move on. Nothing you can do. You should know, you can feel it, if it's not all there, and she's not 100%, then don't give 100% yourself. Simple as that.

Also, if you're worrying about it, then you haven't became the new one. Trust your gut.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Peaks&Valleys said:
You can't worry about this. Really, you can't. It's a mindset with a slippery slope that will do you no good.

As cliche as it is, worry about yourself. As in, be your own man. If, after a time, you don't become the new Alpha in her life, then move on. Nothing you can do. You should know, you can feel it, if it's not all there, and she's not 100%, then don't give 100% yourself. Simple as that.

Also, if you're worrying about it, then you haven't became the new one. Trust your gut.
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That is one amazing reply. From my limited experience, I can only say that no-one is worth wasting your time and life over. Just my two cents.
 
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