A little more than 10 years ago I frequented this site. Read a lot of good stuff but never truly applied the alpha angles, figuring it wasn't for me. Played with a dangerous mix of everything here but kept the "good guy/gentleman" angle and paid dearly. Straight to the point, its been 10 years since then and now I'm freshly divorced after her affair and back at square one.
This is to testify to those tempted to follow my path of being the good guy. Don't! Being a doormat by design will fail 100%! It is hard coded into our psychology!!!!! This goes for all guys. And more specifically to my brothers in Christ out there: even the Holy Bible preaches for us to man up and be alpha (check out the books of Ephesians and 1 Corinthians).
What always hung me up about the good guy/alpha was this: I thought by being alpha I would end up abusing the girl. BULL! There's a difference between being alpha and being an arsehole. Being alpha means taking what's yours and not feeling badly. As alpha you still need to be respectful. It's when you start being a doormat rather than respectful that you lose the alpha. It's like being the captain of a pirate ship. There is a delicate balance once you're on board (in the relationship). You're the Captain (the man). It's up to you to steer the ship (your needs come first) and for that reason alone you get the largest share of the gold (no shame!!). It was your choices that lead the crew to the rewards. But you have to think of your crew (the girl) too(respect her). If you share none of the loot (be an arse) or share too much (be a doormat), you're gonna end up with mutiny (an affair/break up).
In other words take your fair share, the larger piece of the cake, and don't feel badly about it. Any self respecting girl will have serious questions about a guy that doesn't. Take the smaller piece and your other options are to come across a weakling and get friend zoned, or end up with a girl that has no sense of reality. Good luck with the fights in that marriage! I sure as heck didn't enjoy them.
This is to testify to those tempted to follow my path of being the good guy. Don't! Being a doormat by design will fail 100%! It is hard coded into our psychology!!!!! This goes for all guys. And more specifically to my brothers in Christ out there: even the Holy Bible preaches for us to man up and be alpha (check out the books of Ephesians and 1 Corinthians).
What always hung me up about the good guy/alpha was this: I thought by being alpha I would end up abusing the girl. BULL! There's a difference between being alpha and being an arsehole. Being alpha means taking what's yours and not feeling badly. As alpha you still need to be respectful. It's when you start being a doormat rather than respectful that you lose the alpha. It's like being the captain of a pirate ship. There is a delicate balance once you're on board (in the relationship). You're the Captain (the man). It's up to you to steer the ship (your needs come first) and for that reason alone you get the largest share of the gold (no shame!!). It was your choices that lead the crew to the rewards. But you have to think of your crew (the girl) too(respect her). If you share none of the loot (be an arse) or share too much (be a doormat), you're gonna end up with mutiny (an affair/break up).
In other words take your fair share, the larger piece of the cake, and don't feel badly about it. Any self respecting girl will have serious questions about a guy that doesn't. Take the smaller piece and your other options are to come across a weakling and get friend zoned, or end up with a girl that has no sense of reality. Good luck with the fights in that marriage! I sure as heck didn't enjoy them.
and she wants to tame me... Well **** this. In the end, when you walk out on someone, theres relief, but also guilt, shame, "Did I do the right thing", and all those funny things, so peeps who can comfortable slip into the victim role have it the easy way. That goes for both sexes. I think for me its better to be the bad guy, then be the dumb guy.