"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alpha? Or Rude?

spinaroonie

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Long story short, I had an argument about with my AFC buddy (whom I've known since high school) regarding his pickup skills after another unsuccessful night out on the town. He still tries to tool me at times (a holdover from my more AFC younger days) but I flat out told him he's not qualified to give me advice. He's 24, 115 lbs, and still a virgin which has made me lose a lot of respect for him. I genuinely want him to do well.


Email exchange 3 days later:

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hey bro, don't take saturday too personally. it's constructive advice. not saying i'm a pro, but i want you to improve your game.

http://www.motionbox.com/videos/7a97d1b31d16edc5f5

good tips in this video. watch simeon.

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spinaroonie,

I am not upset, in hindsight I find it rather humourous that you blamed your shortcomings on me. For someone who is giving me advice vis-a-vis youtube, you yourself fail to adhere to the advice of others. I realize now that you are undergoing your own personal crisis, whether it be depression, or quater-life anxiety you simply desire a girl-friend and as your friend I understand. My only question is why don't you ever approach anyone, and rely solely on me, esp when I tell you I am not even trying.

I admit that I am a very animate person, but you spinaroonie are arrogant at times, and look downly on others. If I am to work on controlling my animation I suggest you work on your arrogance.

Peace

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just watch and learn. we'll tear it up on the wknd

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How did I handle this?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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katatonia

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Wait, you're worried about handling things in an 'alpha' way to your MALE friend?


...wow.
 

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Yeah that's pretty humorous...although you still shouldn't take too much **** from your friends without dishing it out in return lol. So I guess being "alpha" around your friends matters slightly.

I would have been like "Look at this link I found, I think we can use this, etc." rather than saying YOU need to improve your game.

But your friend sounds like a douche. Perhaps it's the lack of contractions used in his grammar.
 

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Exhumed said:
But your friend sounds like a douche. Perhaps it's the lack of contractions used in his grammar.
He even writes like a virgin.
 

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Wait, you're worried about handling things in an 'alpha' way to your MALE friend?
I don't see anything wrong with this. The very definition of alpha man indicates you are a leader of men, not just women. How difficult a task would it be to just dominate women? The true test of alpha is whether or not you can lead other men.

That said, spinaroonie's friend is obviously so sadly beta that it can't really be any challenge. He could have taken a more tactful approach though.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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spinaroonie

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zekko said:
That said, spinaroonie's friend is obviously so sadly beta that it can't really be any challenge. He could have taken a more tactful approach though.
Agree with you on the alpha = leader of men.

Curious - what is it about his writing that betrays the betaness?
 
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