Does anyone believe that real dominant behavior is natural? There are quite a few people who adapt the ****y ass attitude and feel dominant yet most high IQ people can easily detect it as an act. It is hard for those people to understand how they come across to other people. I feel like the **** but become insecure (rarely) that I may be stunting and other people detect an act. Is there a secret to really adapt a behavior and make sure people believe it as much as you.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Alpha Male?
- Thread starter Hennessy
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Yes, dominate behavior is natural. Some guys just lost it or try to act alpha.
You cant be alpha by acting alpha. Being a Alpha Male isnt about a ****y attitude and walking around acting tuff.
There are tips and ways to be alpha. But, I think its best to figure out what a Alpha Male does not do. This way you stop doing things a beta male would do. Then, before you know it you start becoming Alpha.
Hennessy, if you dont believe in yourself that you are alpha. No one else will.
Are you trying to figure out some ways to sell everybody that your alpha or be about it?
You cant be alpha by acting alpha. Being a Alpha Male isnt about a ****y attitude and walking around acting tuff.
There are tips and ways to be alpha. But, I think its best to figure out what a Alpha Male does not do. This way you stop doing things a beta male would do. Then, before you know it you start becoming Alpha.
Hennessy, if you dont believe in yourself that you are alpha. No one else will.
Are you trying to figure out some ways to sell everybody that your alpha or be about it?
Your question through me off completely. Like I said, there are millions of people out there who feel that they are the alpha male but are scarily obviously not. I'm trying to figure out what wakes these people up. I mean if they are clueless about it then maybe I or everyone else who thinks they are alpha are really caught up in their own act...? Is it really a problem to be self-conscious? You can't better yourself if you aren't. If believing is the key, then there are too many alpha males in this world. You say its natural, meaning your born with it? Or everyone has it and just doesn't know it?
SleepyRangerMedic82D
Don Juan
I personally think its the challenges of life and experiences that make you into the man you are. It is struggles and conflicts that shape and mold you. I also think that true confidence in one's self and not being afraid to stand for what you believe in or what is right, just comes from time.
Just live your life and don't be afraid to get outside of your comfort zone
Just live your life and don't be afraid to get outside of your comfort zone
Hennessy said:Your question through me off completely. Like I said, there are millions of people out there who feel that they are the alpha male but are scarily obviously not. I'm trying to figure out what wakes these people up. I mean if they are clueless about it then maybe I or everyone else who thinks they are alpha are really caught up in their own act...? Is it really a problem to be self-conscious? You can't better yourself if you aren't. If believing is the key, then there are too many alpha males in this world. You say its natural, meaning your born with it? Or everyone has it and just doesn't know it?
Its natural means its a mindset. It comes from within (the subconscious). When you're learning new things you do it consciously at first until it becomes subconscious ie natural.
Being self conscious is not good in some cases. For instance when chatting up a girl its best not to be focusing on things like how you're standing, what to say, if she likes your hair etc.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I have a theory on this. The Alpha, Beta, Gamma theory...
Alpha males are the top dogs, the dominant male. It is impossible to always be alpha though.Someone can be an alpha at some time, and in different groups, be Beta. or defer to others, etc.
Beta males are described as struggling to be Alpha. This is the majority of us, and the natural state of most men. Any Alpha who is challenged is a Beta until he overcomes his challenger, then back to Alpha.
Gamma males are content to be trod on and the submissives to the Beta and Gamma. Gammas rarely stand up for themselves. They are the introverted guys who can't make I contact. They never try to improve their status and are content where they are. They may complain about it,or even try one time to fix it, but they give up easily. There is little hope for these.
there is more to it, but you get the idea. You are trying so you aren't a total squid, haha.
Alpha males are the top dogs, the dominant male. It is impossible to always be alpha though.Someone can be an alpha at some time, and in different groups, be Beta. or defer to others, etc.
Beta males are described as struggling to be Alpha. This is the majority of us, and the natural state of most men. Any Alpha who is challenged is a Beta until he overcomes his challenger, then back to Alpha.
Gamma males are content to be trod on and the submissives to the Beta and Gamma. Gammas rarely stand up for themselves. They are the introverted guys who can't make I contact. They never try to improve their status and are content where they are. They may complain about it,or even try one time to fix it, but they give up easily. There is little hope for these.
there is more to it, but you get the idea. You are trying so you aren't a total squid, haha.
Yes. Believe it. It's a gradual transformation. Best thing to do (I know its cheezy), but is to discover yourself. Turn down the volume on the thoughts and just act on your instincts. Once you can control the thoughts, then you can try to get some kind of internal balance.Hennessy said:Is there a secret to really adapt a behavior and make sure people believe it as much as you.
Do things that don't require so much analysis. Like sports, or painting or something. It needs to be active or emotional. Nothing with alot of thought behind it.
WC2
Master Don Juan
You first must believe yourself to be alpha before trying to act alpha infront of others.
It's obvious when someone is acting unnaturally alpha because they never believed it themselves.
With that said, habits make a person. If you choose to act dominant in most scenarios, you will eventually become a dominant person.
It's obvious when someone is acting unnaturally alpha because they never believed it themselves.
With that said, habits make a person. If you choose to act dominant in most scenarios, you will eventually become a dominant person.
First of all, if you have to ask or have to try, you are not the alpha male. There can only be one, and most likely a person would never consider challenging him, thus he retains his position. We are animals and our actions mirror those of wild animals in nature, where the truly strong males are in control of the group.
I honestly don't think anyone who has to ask about being an alpha male on a website has any chance of being one...
So don't worry about it.
I honestly don't think anyone who has to ask about being an alpha male on a website has any chance of being one...
So don't worry about it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well, not "one" of them wins...the actual alpha male always wins. That is why he is the alpha in nature.volkme68 said:i kinda got to disagree with duffdog about challenges. look at animals, they challenge eachother for alpha status all he time. one will lose one wins
Do you personally challenge someone who is obviously the alpha male in a group? Didn't think so.
An alpha male in my eyes is a man with strong beliefs ( stubborn) who don`t need anyone ( he listens to people advice but his opinions almost never change). A person who people look up to because of his calm non judging behavior, a man people asks for advice, a man who is elected buy the group to be the leader. Not because he wants to be the leader but because the group choose him.
If you are trying to be the leader. You are not a leader. A true leader is chosen buy the group.
Being an alpha is natural for some very few people.
If you are trying to be the leader. You are not a leader. A true leader is chosen buy the group.
Being an alpha is natural for some very few people.