Alot of buying signals and then one confusing comment.. whats it mean?

[FreeStyleZ]

This girl I met a few days ago.. i was just walking towards the elevator in my appt building..about to go grab some food right quick and she comes in and while im on the phone asks me for a ride since she over heard i was leaving the building. She asked me if i could "pretty please" drop her off at this place on campus so she could meet her friends. So i just used some c/f... stuff like "Well i dont give out rides to people i dont know, whats your name?" and then say something like "Well ive got to like someone to give them a ride, whats there to like about you?" We had convo on the ride there, fluff talk... nothing too much and i got her #.

So i call her tonight and she was at some frat party and couldnt really hear me so the conversation was kinda messed up. Some how or another however she threw in the fact she had a boyfriend at which point i found some reason to end the conversation with the intentions of never calling her again. So yeah, later on that night she calls me back which was a surprise. She apologizes for the earlier convo since we had trouble talking and says she couldnt really hear me. In the second conversation I basically tell her that i was calling her to see what she was up to and talk some.

She then tells me without the topic even being on it... that she and her boyfriend broke up and that it was easy for her to do (seems like she went out of her way to let me know this). She asid they only went out a month so she didnt like him much.. I use some more c/f here or wutever and get the convo going some more and she seemed pretty interested. I figured this simply because she called me back and made sure to let me know her and her boyfriend broke up and that it was easy for her to do because she wasnt too interseted... and invites me to go work out with her sometime in the exercise room. I told her we should hang out sometime and drink together or something like that and she seemed up for that. Also she told me that her boyfriend of 3 and a half years was black... we talked for like 5mins though so its not like i was on the phone with her talking about a life story. (Once again she threw out this info in the convo too).

What i *think* happened is that when i called earlier, she wasnt too sure of who it was and tried to just let me know she had a boyfriend, then realized later on and called me back, letting me know she doesnt have a boyfriend. The confusing part however is that like at the end of the convo when she told me I should come work out with her sometime she tells me "Well im not looking for a boyfriend, so dont go around telling anyone that i am".. this was pretty confusing, dont know what to make of it. I just simply responded something along the lines of "lol wow you're moving too fast for me, boyfriend? I just wanted to hang out, dont get your hopes up."

What does everyone else think about this girls IL? Lets look at the facts... she called me back like an hour or two later saying she had no bf, when we first met she was flirting with me and basically trying to qualify herself as being "down with black" by making fun of other "white girls at parties who cant dance". Then telling me she had a bf of 3 and a half years that was black... then she invites me to come work out with her sometime and says she was up for hanging with me....BUT.. then at the end she tells me she's not looking for a bf right now because she already had one is doesnt want to do the whole bf thing again. What im wondering though is, is that her way of telling me she's not interseted in anything as more than friends, or simply that she doesnt want a relationship but will still hook up. i really shoulda set a date though, cuz now since i didnt imma have to call her back and schedule it.

I guess the easiest and most informative way to find out her IL is simply invite her over tomorrow or the day after.... and make a move on her. Just curious to hear everyones take on the interactions thus far.

 

[upsidedownside7]

As far as interest level goes I don't think it's that high. You have your foot in the door and that's it. I'd wait a while to call her back. She did qualify you to date by calling you back and saying she is single but it seems she is very uncertain of what's going on. The possibility of getting with her is there but it's really all up to you.

If I were you I would call her back next week and set up a date then. She kinda let you in by calling you back and you withdrawing for a bit would be perfect. It's kinda saying I'm not THAT interested...we'll do it on my time. If a girl is eager that's when you set up a date right away, she seems a little more than indifferent. Make it seem you have a lot going on and call her next week.

You haven't done anything AFCish which I will give you props on. It just seems there are more barriers to break down. Keep up the C/F and don't take any sh*t.

Good luck

 

[FreeStyleZ]

Hmmm, well I figured since we havent really talked THAT much and she cant really be all THAT interested in me yet since i havent had any time to give her something to get excited about over me.. that i should probably set up a date between us sooner than later.. while she still remembers me and has me on her mind. If i were to wait a week then i figured its pretty much... "out of sight, out of mind" and her IL will be completely gone. At this point she knows who i am, remembers what i look like, and the few conversations we've had and thats it. I havent put too much into the talking on the phone because id rather do it in person. I think it would be fine to call her back like... friday.. well no, not friday... im going out anyway and im sure she is.. but like sunday or something so that we can do something together, and if that goes well and i get her interested enough, then id definitely wait a bit before calling her again. Im thinking of saying something like "I was about to run out and get something to eat, watned to know if u wanted to go too".

 

[FreeStyleZ]

oh well

 

[bootlegger]

maybe asking her to go out for food is a bad idea, since she told you that you should WORK-OUT with her.

She sounds like a physical girl, try something physical.