"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Almost impossible to live the lifestyle this site promotes in some parts of the USA?

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From what I see, SoSuave promotes the whole lifestyle of being better with women by getting with a reasonable amount of women. It promotes the lifestyle of having lots of sex with lots of women, at least that is the impression I get.

Now I have chatted with friends from California who seemed to like the idea of hooking up with different kinds of people. Then on the other hand I have noticed that in some states that lifestyle is actually frowned upon. I notice a lot of these tend to be states in the south (except for Florida and Texas) and in the lower midwest.

I would like to talk more about this with the users here.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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That is correct. Me being single at 38, while uncommon, is no big deal here in the northeast. I have some relatives in Texas. Down there, I'm considered gay or a freak of nature because people marry early on there, generally.

Some areas are more conservative and prefer marriage to hooking up.
 
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That is correct. Me being single at 38, while uncommon, is no big deal here in the northeast. I have some relatives in Texas. Down there, I'm considered gay or a freak of nature because people marry early on there, generally.

Some areas are more conservative and prefer marriage to hooking up.
I have heard way too many mixed reviews about Texas. On one hand many people tell me Dallas and Austin are amazing places to be and are quite liberal but on the other hand people tell me the exact opposite. Haven't heard many good things about Houston.

When you say marry early on, what are you getting at? Can you specify an age range?
 

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U.S. culture is affected deeply by the historical religious fundamentalist evangelical Christianity (thus deep seated belief in marriage).

In Europe here, plenty of singles well into their 30's and 40's. The urge to marry is almost out of raising children than a religious one.

Exodus
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ambitious Player said:
I have heard way too many mixed reviews about Texas. On one hand many people tell me Dallas and Austin are amazing places to be and are quite liberal but on the other hand people tell me the exact opposite. Haven't heard many good things about Houston.

When you say marry early on, what are you getting at? Can you specify an age range?
Probably serious relationship around 22-23. Marriage around 23-27 max.
It's not ridiculous like 18 lol, but young by northeast standards which run like 28-35.

Houston has horrible weather. Extreme combined heat and humidity.

Austin is probably very good for 20somethings.

Dallas is decent, but a mixed bag of liberal and conservative.
 
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I guess the worst place would be more of the old confederacy like GA, TN, MS, AL, and NC.

From what I hear, it is not a good place to be in if you aren't into black girls, the other choice are White girls but it is tough to get them because there are very few to go around and then you have to take into account those that are single and dateable the # goes down even more. The other races are very low in number there overall.
 

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Stick with cities with international presence like NYC, DC, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Miami - and you should do well.

Was just in Las Vegas earlier this week. Couldn't believe how many hot women from all over the world congregate here for vacation. One could do a real good game in Vegas if looking for ONS living here. Now in San Diego, there are also quite a good number of hot AND fit women here on the beaches.

Exodus
 

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GotED? said:
Stick with cities with international presence like NYC, DC, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Miami - and you should do well.

Was just in Las Vegas earlier this week. Couldn't believe how many hot women from all over the world congregate here for vacation. One could do a real good game in Vegas if looking for ONS living here. Now in San Diego, there are also quite a good number of hot AND fit women here on the beaches.

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Vegas is a tough place to get laid. Mostly a**holes from LA get laid there. You have to have some sort of connection with the club promoters or have drugs available. I did have some success there, but the girls were from Germany so they didn't have the retarded American mindset.

SD is a really great place. Women there a quite a bit easier than the rest of CA and they aren't as racist. I have a great time in Pacific Beach every time I go.
 

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GotED? said:
Now in San Diego, there are also quite a good number of hot AND fit women here on the beaches.
skinnyguy said:
SD is a really great place. Women there a quite a bit easier than the rest of CA and they aren't as racist. I have a great time in Pacific Beach every time I go.
I live in Pacific Beach. The white chicks in this area (honestly even the mexican chicks only like white guys in this area lol) tend to be slightly more racist than other parts of town. Generally, white San Diegan chicks do like ethnic dudes though... and are supremely hot.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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j.619 said:
I live in Pacific Beach. The white chicks in this area (honestly even the mexican chicks only like white guys in this area lol) tend to be slightly more racist than other parts of town. Generally, white San Diegan chicks do like ethnic dudes though... and are supremely hot.
Dude I'm mad jealous... The bay sucks. We need to hit up PB bar and grill this summer
 
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j.619 said:
I live in Pacific Beach. The white chicks in this area (honestly even the mexican chicks only like white guys in this area lol) tend to be slightly more racist than other parts of town. Generally, white San Diegan chicks do like ethnic dudes though... and are supremely hot.
I can somewhat confirm the latter part. Knew a brunette that visited my town for the summer a while ago and she did send show some IOIs but I was too inexperienced and lacked any aggression to pick up on it.
 

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Dude I'm mad jealous... The bay sucks. We need to hit up PB bar and grill this summer
Just hit me up man. At the beach now. Love Me some new party friends. Gaming is fun out here
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ambitious Player said:
I keep hearing good things about San Diego.
I hooked up with a San Diego chick once in Vegas. Another teacher with glasses :up: . She was blonde and 35, but looked 26. A low 8 in looks and my hottest ONS score.

She was really cool and interesting. I'm guessing they are quite liberal and into diversity because she suddenly switched to some long lecture on how there are "racists in the south." Then she went into gay marriage. I changed the subject because I wasn't interested in a political debate lol. We went back to normal fluff talk. But, my point is she seemed very liberal.

I didn't give a flying F about her politics. She was cute and fun.
 

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When I was in Mexico. every single hot chick was from San Diego. They were fit as fvck out there and all natural. You don't even see those kinds of girls in LA.
 

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Skinnyguy, how has your experience with San Diego girls been?

My experience with SD girls has been amazing. In Mexico, I was surrounded by HB 9’s from SDSU who were really open to talking to me. My boy was talking to random chicks at Mango Deck and almost all of them were non-btchy. The girls were so impressed with how smart I was (I told them I went to Cal). It was so easy dude. I didn’t experience that kind of friendliness from hot girls since I was in Orlando several years ago.

If you go to Pacific Beach (which you should by all means, I’ll be there in late July), there are rows of bars where you can just go up and talk to people. Everyone there just wants to have fun. Out in the Gaslamp, it’s a little tougher but not much. They have really good clubs out there. Since there’s so many college girls in SD who want to party, it is relatively easy to hook up. PM me if you wanna know more.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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