"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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All these rules "carved into stone" aren't always true...

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For example, I was an emotional tampon for a girl that I met recently (by choice really, I wasn't seeking her at that time) and I was a total nice guy to her... Turns out now she is quite interested in me. This might not mean that she would go out with me, but this also means that she didn't block me off of potential b/f list, which does mean that these so-called "rules" aren't always true
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So what you're saying is that you're no nearer now than you were when you started communicating with her?

Realise that you've spent these hours listening to this chick tell you her problems and you've got nothing in return... when a chick is single, every guy is on the potential BF list... your behavior didn't get you on that list, and it isn't a bonus that you didn't get crossed off the list... essentially you wasted hours you could've been using more productively with friends, by yourself, or with other chicks maintaining your position on this girls list...

Tsk, tsk, tsk..
 
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Ashley Chuckles said:
So what you're saying is that you're no nearer now than you were when you started communicating with her?

Realise that you've spent these hours listening to this chick tell you her problems and you've got nothing in return... when a chick is single, every guy is on the potential BF list... your behavior didn't get you on that list, and it isn't a bonus that you didn't get crossed off the list... essentially you wasted hours you could've been using more productively with friends, by yourself, or with other chicks maintaining your position on this girls list...

Tsk, tsk, tsk..
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Naaa the way I see it is first, I didn't waste any time with her. See, I don't mind helping girls out when I'm not really interested in them. Also, I'd say I'm not just in potential b/f zone, but also she seems pretty interested in me... She was kinoing me a lot today, and I was kinoing back and it was going smoothly. Maybe its all false interest, I don't know yet, but I'll find out, got nothing to lose. If it turns out to be false interest, whatever it's not a big loss it's not like I put 100% of my attention for her or anything...
 
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I don't mind helping girls out when I'm not really interested in them.
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Huh? So you're on the potential BF list of a girl who you're not really interested in?

I dunno... I'm just having trouble making sense of it... if it was me I'd rather be helping my friends out or having a wicked time my friends and hitting up girls that I am interested in rather than listening to the troubles of some girl I'm not really interested in...
 
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Ashley Chuckles said:
Huh? So you're on the potential BF list of a girl who you're not really interested in?

I dunno... I'm just having trouble making sense of it... if it was me I'd rather be helping my friends out or having a wicked time my friends and hitting up girls that I am interested in rather than listening to the troubles of some girl I'm not really interested in...
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Bah I left some information out, I'm just lazy...

Thing is, we were at a party, but it was the end of it, pretty much everyone left. Then, her, a mutual friend of ours and me gathered somewhere and we started talking, and we were cheering her up because she got kinda rejected by this guy (however, if she turns out to be rly interested in me, it wouldn't be a rebound because it took her one day to get over him)

Anyways man maybe you're right, maybe not, I won't know for now, but I'll find out. Howver, now I'm tired as hell so I'm off to bed

Peace
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ya... only time will tell... the rules are more concerned with dudes who spend weeks and months trying to get at a girl by being her emotional tampon not a dude who spends ten minutes changing a girls outlook...

I wouldn't quite categorise a girl as over a dude in a day though... she may seem that way or even say it, but it's most likely a front... inside she'll be unstable because she really isn't over the dude as quickly as she says she is...
 
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You know what they say: Rules are made to be broken.

I've always thought they were more like guidelines anyway.
 
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A diffferent perspective...

Every woman has her own personal and unique likes and dislikes. Rules should be referred to more as guidelines. There are no "rules" per se when it comes to women. Each to her own. While one woman might be crazily turned on by the behavior / personality of a guy, the woman next to her might be disgusted at the same guy.

Not every woman is for every guy, and visa versa... But that’s why we meet and go through a whole lot of women until we get to a stage where you know what you are looking for in a woman, and you know what you are NOT looking for in a woman... and then when the woman that fits your criteria comes along, you know that this is now a potential LTR girlfriend and you might wanna spend a little more time on her.. ;)

At the end of the day, every person is their own unique and different person and that’s just the reality of life.


Laterz...
 
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Naaa the way I see it is first, I didn't waste any time with her. See, I don't mind helping girls out when I'm not really interested in them. Also, I'd say I'm not just in potential b/f zone, but also she seems pretty interested in me... She was kinoing me a lot today, and I was kinoing back and it was going smoothly. Maybe its all false interest, I don't know yet, but I'll find out, got nothing to lose. If it turns out to be false interest, whatever it's not a big loss it's not like I put 100% of my attention for her or anything...
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Then someone who is a true DJ comes along and screws her brains out while you are still being an emotional tampon?

Think about it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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lucky 4 u u r not yet in the friendship zone, if u were, u r screwed.
Girls has 3 catatogies:
guys they want to screw with immediately(have sex asap)
guys they may want to screw with(they hold off the sex)
guys they will never have sex with no matter what u do(friend zone)
if u r in zone one, u will have sex and u r in the potential long term zone, that means u r a DJ and u got in her bed without buying her
zone two: you bought her, u r an afc and u showered her with money and gifts, but not so much so that u slip into friend zone,
zone three: unlucky afc, too much showering, but she has never even considered taking her pants off 4 u-move on.
 
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