All That Is Alpha - Tip Compilation (Ongoing)

[Dedication]

I predict all female readers will immediately 'get' this, and hopefully a few male readers as well.

One of the most common, most overlooked, yet most important components of a developing relationship is being there for her when she wants to open up about important things (not to be confused with day to day complaining).

Do it and she'll fall in love with you.



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Your blog is awesome, i wish you posted every day.

I just read this article. I ****ing love it because i never thought about it. Now that i do, i have never 'been there for her'. And i also do not know when the right time is to be there for her. I guess it will come with experience as i will mess up some relationships by being either too much of an emotional tempon and 'not being there for her' enough.

Thanks again, i will now pay attention to such an emotional detail.

 

[muscleman]

Wahooo! A new one After reading a page a night of these for the last couple days I was gutted to come to the end but now I've got another to read.

Cheers for taking the time to right these muscleman, highly appreciated.

Thanks, glad you enjoy them.

Your blog is awesome, i wish you posted every day.

I just read this article. I ****ing love it because i never thought about it. Now that i do, i have never 'been there for her'. And i also do not know when the right time is to be there for her. I guess it will come with experience as i will mess up some relationships by being either too much of an emotional tempon and 'not being there for her' enough.

Thanks again, i will now pay attention to such an emotional detail.

I wish I posted every day too, but unfortunately I don't get paid to do it (and have bills), and won't until I have an actual ebook (which is in the works and tentatively scheduled for release at the end of the year).

You're not the only one who has been confused by this, so I'm going to make a follow-up post explaining it a bit more.

 

[muscleman]

'Being there' part 2 - the difference between empathy and emotional tampon

My last post on 'just being there' caused a bit of confusion, as there appears to be a fine line between presence for the important stuff and soaking up the banal.

In reality, the difference is lot more clear cut. 99% is fluff, but that 1% is critical to developing love.



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[muscleman]

What's your drive?

The most important component of becoming a better person is having an internal drive. A lot of times it's negative, but you use it for positive results.

Discover and harness your drive - take everything and everyone who made you feel sh*tty and prove them wrong. Included: a story to illustrate.



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[muscleman]

The relationship core: construction or destruction?

I'm going to be switching gears and talking about relationship management as I'm going through a bit of it myself.

The most basic concept and the answer to 'should I stay or leave' is whether the relationship is constructive or destructive. Here's the difference.



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[muscleman]

Sleep on it

As men, we're not as well prepared to deal with emotional valleys.

A simple solution is to sleep on it while your nerves calm, regardless of how serious the situation is.



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[muscleman]

How to be alpha in a relationship PART 1: the right beginning

I'm starting a series on how to be alpha in a relationship. Love, commitment, exclusivity - it's a different animal, and although it requires a different behavior set, it's still built on an alpha foundation.

First, the relationship has to start the right way, for the right reasons, and with proper screening - or it's doomed to fail.



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[Eph]

Probably should have asked this when it was more relevant, but just thought about it so: what would you say about "being there for her" before you're in an actual relationship? Just as bad as being her emotional tampon, or what?

For example, one girl I'm trying to game posted on facebook that she almost got into a car crash with (I'm guessing) her siblings in the car. Being the guy that I am I was thinking about posting something "comforting" to her. Ultimately decided against it, but what would you say to this? Does it not have the same effect as if you were already in a relationship?

 

[muscleman]

Probably should have asked this when it was more relevant, but just thought about it so: what would you say about "being there for her" before you're in an actual relationship? Just as bad as being her emotional tampon, or what?

For example, one girl I'm trying to game posted on facebook that she almost got into a car crash with (I'm guessing) her siblings in the car. Being the guy that I am I was thinking about posting something "comforting" to her. Ultimately decided against it, but what would you say to this? Does it not have the same effect as if you were already in a relationship?

Nope, different things. You haven't had sex yet, there's literally no bond there, so the most you should say is 'that sucks, hope you're all ok'. If/when you're developing a relationship, then it's different.

 

[muscleman]

The 3 degrees of Masculinity: positive, negative, and none

A very common misconception is that women LIKE to be abused and treated poorly.

False. Feminine women want a masculine man, but unfortunately the MAJORITY of masculinity is manifest in negative action.

Here's the difference between positive, negative, and no masculinity.



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[muscleman]

Breakups are always final

One thing I see a lot of, which I could never relate to, is people breaking up and getting back together.

It's a total waste of time, EVERY time, so don't do it.


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[muscleman]

How to be alpha in a relationship PART 2: don't be controlling

Continuing on with the series of staying alpha in a relationship, today I talk about a really bad habit men often acquire: trying to control their girlfriend.

You'll get way better mileage by doing the exact opposite.



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[muscleman]

How to be alpha in a relationship PART 3: being a physical/emotional protector

Next part is up. Today I talk about being an emotional and - if needed - physical protector and why it's so important.


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[muscleman]

Positive Reinforcement To Keep Your Girl Sexy

A very common pitfall in relationships is physical complacency, aka getting fat and happy together. A lot of times, it leads to a slow, painful death.

As long as you practice what you preach, here are some ways to keep your girl slim and sexy.



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[muscleman]

Respect > Lust > Love

In any relationship, regardless of duration or commitment, everything stems from respect.

If a woman doesn't respect you, she will never get wet for you.

Develop this mindset, stand by your core beliefs, and profit.



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[Purefilth]

Good post there on respect muscleman

 

[muscleman]

The Frailty Of Women

Been a while since I've posted. New job, some interesting life developments (irrelevant for the time being), and spending time with my girlfriend have cut in to my posting. I think I'm back down to Earth now though.

One thing I've noticed in my deeper interactions with her and other women is how frail they really are. They NEED our strength, guidance, and support.

If you see the truth behind the tough girl exterior and act accordingly, there will be no shortage of love in your life.

 

[Bizzle13]

Awesome thread! Been on your site and read pretty much all you've wrote, taught me a lot. I will be Alpha! Haha you should come to England muscleman and take on a pedawan!

 

[muscleman]

Awesome thread! Been on your site and read pretty much all you've wrote, taught me a lot. I will be Alpha! Haha you should come to England muscleman and take on a pedawan!

Thanks, glad you like it. If you pay for my ticket, I'll gladly swing by!

 

[muscleman]

Genetic lottery winners, Idiocracy style

What is the endgame of game? For some, it's numbers. But biology doesn't care. Biology cares about offspring, and we're getting closer to the prophecy of Idiocracy with each passing year.