"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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All That Is Alpha - Tip Compilation (Ongoing)

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In my 5+ years here (at the time of writing), I've been fortunate enough to meet a handful of mentors who have helped me transform my life completely, to avoid pitfalls with lifelong repercussions and to see the world for how it really is. Rollo Tomassi is one of the few still around who can attest to the changes. This community is a Godsend for men the world over and if you're new, I urge you to stay.

As I continue on my journey, I feel it's time to give back. Below you'll find an ongoing series of tips as I write them.

Enjoy, and may the alpha be with you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How becoming alpha can be likened to leveling up in an MMO

Sometimes parables are the best teachers and with 10+ million subscribers to WoW alone (I'm afraid to see how many people play MMOs in aggregate), it may help some to liken the journey from beta > alpha to leveling up in an MMO.

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Briefly - In an MMO you start out with no experience, no weapons, no armor, and no clue of what you're doing. As you complete some basic quests and get a hang of the controls, you have the option of progressing to more hostile zones where greater challenges and setbacks (death) await. However, if you decide to stay in the comforts of town, you'll quickly run out of new experiences and levels. This is the blue pill. If you venture out, you'll gain the rewards that come with greater risk and effort. After a while the levels come slower, you begin to 'grind', and enemies are generally easier to deal with. You might become jaded from slowed progress and a lack of purpose. This is akin to learning and internalizing the basic tenets of game and becoming generally successful with women. However, elite challenges await with much sought-after armor, weapons, and another rewards, but the time and risk necessary to get these only appeals to a few. If you get there, you'll realize that you can now own everything, (nearly) everyone, and are the envy of all. On a long enough timeline, in an MMO you can own (alpha) or get owned (beta); the choice is yours.
 
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Leagues are real

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Briefly - a lot of people like to believe there's no such thing as leagues, that anyone can get anyone else, that all people are equal. Nothing could be further from the truth. What you can do as a man, however, is bump yourself up several leagues through time and effort in a variety of characteristics (looks, fame, status, wealth, game) and become more attractive to the women of your choosing.
 

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Makeup vs Game

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Briefly - men and women (though ironically a lot of men) look at game as a negative thing - immoral, manipulative, psychopathic, etc. There are reasons why it's portrayed this way, but if game is such a big lie, what about makeup? What truth does it portray?
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What's your persona?

Since the journey from beta to alpha is a major personality shift (among other things like getting fit, getting your money right, and so on), modeling the behavior of those 'already there' is one way to internalize the necessary mindset and take appropriate action.

Check it out - Aligning with a persona as a way to handle situations


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Happy Thanksgiving everyone! We have a lot to be thankful for. If you're reading this, there's a good chance you have a roof over your head, food on the table, and generally experience 1st world problems. But beyond that, you should be thankful that to some degree you're becoming aware of inter-gender dynamics.

So, be thankful for seeing the world as it really is.

Having this knowledge and putting it to good use will save you plenty of time, money, and will lead to a happier and more fulfilling life.

Hopefully you're all with good people today, I know I am.
 

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Monogamy as a social construct

One of the most basic premises of relationships and common infidelity is the notion that humans are, by default, monogamous creatures. We're not. At least not for prolonged periods of time.

Monogamy is not a natural state of being.

If it was, laws favoring it wouldn't exist and struggles against it wouldn't exist - from either sex.
 

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Practice, practice, practice

I know, people want immediate results and they want them yesterday. It's for this reason that most struggle to accumulate wealth, get (and stay) in peak physical condition, and have the kinds of relationships they desire - because they don't practice.

Practice is a must, with women just like with anything else.

Set aside some time so you can work on your interactions.
 

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Jobs that get you laid

If you have social anxiety, are sick of staring at a computer all day, and want a fun job where you can make decent money, be surrounded by attractive women, and get all the benefits thereof, guess what?

It's entirely possible.

I briefly go over a few fields I've been in and the fringe benefits: personal training, bartending, sales, and photography.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Monkey branching explained

There was a thread started recently on another forum I visith that prompted me to write about monkey branching.

Options = instability, kinda like candy.

As a side note, if anyone wants me to write about a specific topic, let me know. I have my own ever-growing list, but here to help.
 

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When you get approached by fat/ugly girls, here's what it means

Once you've reached a certain sexual market value (verifiable by how many attractive women you've slept with or had the chance to sleep with), you may begin to notice that totally repulsive women approach you.

It means you're becoming more attractive to all women.

This is perfectly normal, but unless you understand the reasons behind it, it could mess with your mind (and therefore your game).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Quantify your success for fun and profit

Merry Christmas everyone!

Although it may seem a bit mechanical on the surface, quantifying your success, over time, is a sure-fire way to build further success.

So keep track and don't listen to the naysayers.

Remember: alphas are made, not born. Even the 'natural' learned to be natural, just earlier in life.
 

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Muscleman, thanks for posting these!

I've bookmarked this thread and will be keeping a close eye on it.

I wanted to ask you an honest question, I guess as a way to reinforce my beliefs that the path I'm taking is the right one. How much could be gained if we adhere to the principles of Game + Self Development? I'm talking completely swallowing the red pill and never looking back. I think I know the answer, but as with any new path (i.e. people switching religions, etc.), some knowledge of where this could eventually take me would help reinforce us rAFC's on our path to Alpha. Could you talk a little bit about your personal development?

I botched it up with my "One" in early December. I've been an avid reader of CH and Rollo's blog for some time now, and I have a deep understanding of where I failed with this relationship as opposed to when I was a complete AFC with my previous ones (and had no clue why things happened the way they did back then).

I had what Krauser calls an "ego destruction" moment when things fell apart this December, and I want to build the proper foundations now that I'm starting anew.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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