"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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All of our life problems start with us having no balls

alnite

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I just learned something tonight. I learned that I should've said and done something a long time ago, but I didn't because I had no balls. I wouldn't otherwise be in the situation I am now. Funny thing is, I had always known this but for some reason, I didn't see it the way I see it now.

Whenever you've been presented with options, you should not completely rely on what your logic brain is telling you -- that you want avoid conflicts, that you don't have time for that ****, that you are too old, that you are too high-class to be dealing with that kind of stuff, that other people could do it, that it's not your thing, that it costs too much money, that it makes her sad, that it's not polite, that whatever. When your gut says otherwise, listen to it, say and do what needs to be said and done.

We, men, don't have the same life as them, women, even though we walk on the same planet. We don't wait for opportunities to come by, we seek and create them ourselves. We are not waiting for a lady in a sexy armor to sweep us off our feet. We are not waiting for a dumb salesman offering your dream house/boat/mansion for a penny. We pave our own road, and we choose the direction.

This is what your thought process should be like whenever some manly actions need to be done:

Balls -> Brain -> Heart


Don't do this all the time, however. You wouldn't survive very long.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Desert Fox

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This is so true.

If you don't have balls you will have people walk all over you which brings up issues. This in turn will cause you to have troubles because 100% of the time these people using you will not leave you happy or in a favorable state.

Therefore you must always do what is best for yourself and to do that you must be able to have balls and stand up for yourself.
 

jdon23

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I believe there is a balance. You need to think with your brain;Speak with your heart, and act with your balls.

Problems start when someone is thinking too much with one aspect of their person. Following the heart too much leads to attachment and acting clingy. Think with your brain too much and you will over analyze everything. And if your TOO "balsy", you will come off as super aggressive.

Balance is key.
 
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