All of my "what?"s

[dudewut]

Situation: I met this girl through a friend (he used to like her, and he went nowhere, so he gave me the green light) we all hang out together around campus and stuff.

The first couple of weeks she seems cool, until today, out of nowhere, she starts busting my balls. So opposite on how she was last week (she kept on complimenting my teeth, what the hell? Woman, I am not a prize horse!) The friend of mine (the same guy who introduced us) said that she finds me funny and stuff (hence, she added me on fb, took my number etc.) but now she just busts my balls! And the things she said, i dont even know where it came from!

I know its not supposed to bother me, but it did, of course I kept a straight face on, but still......wtf man? lol

 

[DonJuanit0]

I think she just doesn't know hot to act in front of you! How old are you guys?

 

[dudewut]

I think she just doesn't know hot to act in front of you! How old are you guys?

I am 21, she is 18 or 19 I think. IDK

Still, though. Shocker.

A part of me thinks its a sh!t test, another thinks its a blow off, like she means it. Like, why should she point out something so specific?

1 minute we are having a conversation and a laugh about the Hangover 2. Then a few minutes later, she was busting my balls in front of my boys. Geeze

A week ago "OMG, You have really nice teeth, I cant get over how straight your teeth is! Its sooo nice!"

today "OMG, you think you got swag, but you dont have that much swag!" because I took that waitress' number from a restaurant we ate at, she decided to bring it up on the way back to campus.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Kiss test her already. She clearly wants some of those pearly whites!

 

[dudewut]

Kiss test her already. She clearly wants some of those pearly whites!

How can one be sure that failure can be averted? ....law suits are expensive dude

 

[Iceberg]

How can one be sure that failure can be averted? ....law suits are expensive dude

Make her sign a contract stating that she likes you. Include a time and date upon which the first kiss should happen. Draft clauses that include penalties for flakiness.

 

[PokerStar]

How can one be sure that failure can be averted? ....law suits are expensive dude

if you are thinking she has low interest, the only way to find out is to ask her out.

if she says yes. then its your job to seduced her.

if she says no without any counter offer, you would then know how much she likes you.

BTW in regards to failure. you would never know unless you try.

 

[SgtSplacker]

First of all get your buddy out of the picture. Dont talk to him about her, don't talk to her about him. When a woman comes up with too much material she's getting it from someone else. If the material is not flattering you can assume they are bashing you. Since your buddy thinks that trim is his to give away, then he thinks it's his to take back too, friend laws are out the window. Try to hang out with her solo and game as usual. Good luck!

 

[I'm in the Mood]

You can't get "permission" to kiss her. This is one of the challenges you must overcome through the game; learning how to calibrate and time a kiss. In short, kiss her when you think the time is right and you feel like it. For starters, if you're thinking in your head, "I don't know if I should kiss her now or not...," "I'm not ready to kiss her," etc., that's a sign that you should kiss her right then and there. Why? Because in your mind you know that you WANT to kiss her, and your fear is trying to discourage you with other thoughts. You will know instinctively when the time is right to kiss her, trust your judgment. Also, you should know that girls like to kiss and if she's into you, she probably will kiss you! If for some reason she rejects your kiss or pulls away, act like you're OK with it (even if your inner wussy protests) and relieve the tension with a joke, or just smile at her. You MUST relieve the tension, or it will be uncomfortable for her. She might also need a few seconds to process what's going on if you go in for a kiss all of a sudden.

Seriousness is usually uncomfortable for women, and men also, because it puts people on the spot spontaneously, making them a little uncomfortable, and it can also take away from the fun and spirit of the moment. You don't want her to feel uncomfortable, because you like her and she's your friend. The best way to make things comfortable for everyone is to be comfortable with your own actions. You've probably heard this before, "being comfortable in your own skin." It's true that this makes everyone around you more comfortable, but achieving that level of comfort with yourself is easier said than done.

Oh, and don't worry about a lawsuit. What's she going to do? "Eww! Your honor, he tried to kiss me!”

 

[dudewut]

Ok.....I was exaggerating on the law suit part lol, but still, sexual harassment lawsuits are kinda prevalent in the US.

And I was not actually that concerned with that anyway, its more of me looking like a tool in front of my friends when she rejects me And I swear, they wont let me forget about that lol

As I mentioned before, she is kinda tight knit with my social circle.

 

[PokerStar]

somtimes you just have to take that leap of faith.

do you want to be in your social circle and wonder "what if?"

or do you want to be in your circle knowing that you gave it a shot.

 

[dixonnormus]

didn't you say that she got all "pissy" coz you took the waitresses number? seems like she got jealous so doesn't that mean she likes you?