"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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All my fat is back!

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Ok!!! Here i go!! I been loosing weight for about 3 weeks!! I ate about 1000 calories a day! and lost about 15 pounds!! And then we had a picnicat my friends house!! i ate all i could eat!!I woke up and weighted myself!! I was 4 punds more!! Then the next day!! i gave myself a break!! ate little more than i usually do!!! And know I am back like i was 3 weeks ago!!! DId i starved for nothing??? Should i just eat puke eat puke?? i mean comen!! its not fare!!!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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diablo, a little help here? :D
 

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troll...lock this stuff mods
 

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This is probably really obvious but you need to ease off food. Cut your calories gradually. Then gradually eat more. Then once your eating more you eat many small meals to keep the matabolism up and the fat burning. That entire process should take at least 3 months.

Also I dont think that 5 lbs a week is healthy. Your body was starved and now will take as much out of everything and turn it into fat because it thinks food might be scarce.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Less than 1700 calories a day for a male, and the body goes into starvation mode. And there is no point going by what the scales say.
 

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Why does this thread feel as if it should be in a women's forum?
 
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shydude said:
Ok!!! Here i go!! I been loosing weight for about 3 weeks!! I ate about 1000 calories a day! and lost about 15 pounds!! And then we had a picnicat my friends house!! i ate all i could eat!!I woke up and weighted myself!! I was 4 punds more!! Then the next day!! i gave myself a break!! ate little more than i usually do!!! And know I am back like i was 3 weeks ago!!! DId i starved for nothing??? Should i just eat puke eat puke?? i mean comen!! its not fare!!!
I wish I could give you another negative reputaion but... I have to wait.

IDIOT!!!! Have you heard of YO-YO dieting? Go read something. You know nothing of nutrition or even common sense.

Get some knowledge and come back. Nothing in life is fare!!!
 
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Brian20o2 said:
This is probably really obvious but you need to ease off food. Cut your calories gradually. Then gradually eat more. Then once your eating more you eat many small meals to keep the matabolism up and the fat burning. That entire process should take at least 3 months.

Also I dont think that 5 lbs a week is healthy. Your body was starved and now will take as much out of everything and turn it into fat because it thinks food might be scarce.
At least there are some smart people here!!
 

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brucevangeorge said:
I wish I could give you another negative reputaion but... I have to wait.

IDIOT!!!! Have you heard of YO-YO dieting? Go read something. You know nothing of nutrition or even common sense.

Get some knowledge and come back. Nothing in life is fare!!!


Wow very well handeled!! Thank you. And thanks for ur advise Brian
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've been slowly losing weight the past two years. I started off extremely obese(330) and now I'm down to 265 but I still have a ways to go before I'll be at a good weight for my height/frame(I figure around 190 or so, put on some muscle too). It will probably be another year and a half to two years before I finally get to my goal..

But I just have to at least try anyway. I can't just sit on my ass for two years because I'm not in the physical shape I could be in. Plus if I start learning to build confidence NOW while I'm still fat it will be even easier to be confident once I get normal.
 
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You are doing a Yo-Yo diet. Look it up. It won't work and in some cases after the diet ends and you resume "normal", you gain it all back and then some.

Eat propely, lose weight slowly. If you overdo it, you will end up fat again.


shydude said:
Wow very well handeled!! Thank you. And thanks for ur advise Brian
Sorry bout the harshness earlier, but you have to realize the ignorance of many posters here. It is mind numbing, and you're not helping.
 

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If you ate only 1000 calories a day and lost 15 pounds, you probobly lost muscle mass. The body doesn't really like to burn fat. Add starvation mode and the body burns muscle proteins instead of fat since muscle is protein and a source of energy. Now, given that you lost musclemass, you now need less calories to maintain a bodyweight. In other words, your metabolism slowed down. This is why a 200 lbs guy needs to eat more than a 130 lbs guy to maintain his weight.

So, your body is in starvationmode by now. When you go from eating 1000 calories a day to eating high calories without gradually upping the dayly calorie intake (300-500 a week), the body responds by spiking insuline and stores the calories in the fat celles. Also if you ate alot of carbs, they draw water and glucose into your muscles, wich also weighs a bit. A fair amount of that weight you lost might be waterweight. But still, if you lose more than 2 lbs a week no matter what diet you're on, most of it is muscle. Unless youre morbidly obece ofcource.
 
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