All it takes is One Slip

[SW15]

Women today don't mind getting nexted or ghosted by a beta male.

Women today will be upset if an alpha/sigma does not commit to them longer term.

 

[Chow Mein]

Women today don't mind getting nexted or ghosted by a beta male.

Women today will be upset if an alpha/sigma does not commit to them longer term.

Drives them nuts. When they feel that they are options, they try harder

 

[jhonny9546]

I've come to realize it's a little like this: There are women in my life, single, married, in a relationship, married with kids, and in other situations, who show me varying levels of interest.
Level zero: no IOI they're not even interested in talking. (40%)
Level one: mystery, IOI, then they ignore you, these women are hot and cold and you never know what they want from you. (50%)
Level two: sincere, these women you know they're interested, because they'll make it so obvious (10%)

This is what happens in my life. So this has taught me to just know as many women as possible.
Also, this taught me that women on level two interest are to qualify, because some borderline or people with mental illness would just "lovebombing" you. So you've to be careful on that.

 

[Divorced w 3]

One slip.

That's all it takes.

One slip, and it is all over. You are nexted.

You are always under severe scrutiny. Always. People are waiting for you to fail.
They want you to fail. It can't be, you can't be that awesome.
You must fail. Why does he not fail?

And you don't.

But, you make a remark about that dress. You overpush push and pull. You let your guard down for a minute.

That is it.
That is all they need.

After that, they will run to their little coven, telling what you've done. And that will be digested and analysed, and debated, again, under severe scrutiny, and sadly, against you. Her friends, her exes, her orbiters, her sisters, her brothers, mothers, your mutual friends, her kid. You name it.

And everyone, and I mean, everyone is against you.

With that said and done, that is enough reason for her to go cold, get distanced, and sooner than later, fvck the next guy.

By then, it's bella ciao!

Whats even worse is, you never know what have you actually done. She is not coming back to tell you, it was that remark.
Leaving you to guess what the f just happened.

It does not matter how great you are, how awesome you can be, nothing. Nothing matters against the reasoning of the coven.
It took enourmos proportions by now.

Since they have infinite ammount of options, they would not care to call you and say, babe, there is something wrong. This and this happened.

They will just default to default. Flaky, cold, distance... and the eventual penis.

And that is how you are nexted
And also that's why they are so screwed up in their minds. Because they are forever stuck in this cycle.

How do you prevent that?
You don't. They are always looking for something to go wrong. And since they are hellbent on that, they will find it, you like it or not.

The only thing you can do is:
Spin plates yourself. Always have a plan b, and c. And dump the btch as soon as things get lukewarm, 'cause that's the first warning.

If you walk away at the first sign of disrespect, then you might have the chance to keep balls rolling for a longer period.

But don't hold on to that feeling. You just gained another day. Remember what is their default.

Use this approach in life. Keep winning!

I don’t know if one’s anxiety is best resolved by advocating for continuous diversion.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Here's where the difference lies, however: I'm well-aware of the fact that, if I next a woman, it could be years before I find a replacement

Spending endless hours online, using an autism diagnosis which may or may not be accurate as a justification for not walking out of your front door and being amongst the rest of your species, depletes ones prospects for success

 

[GoodMan32]

Spending endless hours online, using an autism diagnosis which may or may not be accurate as a justification for not walking out of your front door and being amongst the rest of your species, depletes ones prospects for success

Umm, it's 2025 (smartphones and all). A lot of the time I spend online is outside of the home. I'm on a public bus right now, for example.

 

[BaronOfHair]

A lot of the time I spend online is outside of the home. I'm on a public bus right now, for example.

Strike up a conversation with someone on the bus, instead of being online

 

[GoodMan32]

Strike up a conversation with someone on the bus, instead of being online

Maybe if it weren't for the fact everyone sitting by me were high schoolers.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Maybe if it weren't for the fact everyone sitting by me were high schoolers.

That's only an "obstacle", IF you conceptualize it as such

 

[GoodMan32]

That's only an "obstacle", IF you conceptualize it as such

A 33 year old man chatting up high schoolers on a city bus is creepy. Even my autistic self (who, per my own admission, is prone to unknowingly acting creepy) knows that.

On a serious note though, as for the general topic of chatting up bus passengers:

One, there's the earbud problem @SW15 has posted about in great depth.

Two, there have been multiple instances on public transportation where I've witnessed a female passenger throw an absolute hissy fit because a male passenger said one word to her (One passenger even yelled, loud enough I could hear at the opposite end of the bus "Leave me alone! I'm married! You never bother a woman when she's by herself!"). The arrogance of her to think any man who speaks to her is trying to get into her pants.

The hissy fit that passenger threw is indicative of a belief many a woman silently holds (you never "bother" a woman when she's by herself), creating a hurdle for men when it comes to cold approaches.

 

[BaronOfHair]

A 33 year old man chatting up high schoolers on a city bus is creepy....

It doesn't HAVE to be... We just talking being more sociable here

 

[Lotus Effect]

You can't control women... all you can do is respond to what they do. If a woman cuts you lose after one 'slip' just let her go and stop thinking about her. Let her go find a man that will twist himself into knots trying to keep her happy... someone she will lose respect for then continue to torture the poor b@sterd until he finds his balls and gives up, or she starts fvcking another dude she is attracted too, while he sits in the corner crying.

Basically what happened with me for the past two years, with the girl who made me write this.

Got in a relationship with her, twisted myself trying to keep her happy, she lost respect, I found the balls and gave up, there was another dude just right in line, and I cried on the corner.

You are a wise man Mike, and I'm still a common fool.

Good read, thanks.