"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"The Path of least resistance" - it's true of everything. It's why comfort zones form, and why fear exists. It's the single connecting factor between all elements of AFC.

As an addendum to the above. Modern society caters much more to the lazy. Fast food, fast entertainment - we live in a society whereby short-term gratification is the highest desire. Too many people are used to not having to work for anything in their lives. Including ascension to DJism.

That's why PUAs have such trouble with LTRs. (and one of the reasons people in general prefer to "date" than have LTRs) Once you've found picking up women to be a source of short-term gratification, the idea of WORKING at a relationship can often seem foreign. This is the trap many PUAs fall in, guys like Mystery, TD, etc, etc.

Ultimately it comes down to this: You can read all the online dating information you want, but unless you motivate yourself to get out in the field you're just as useless as an AFC.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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