All Alone at the Bar

[exwhyzee]

Just moved to a new place with a good night life, I am 21 now so I plan on heading downtown. I remember reading some posts in the past about how going out alone can be more effective than going with friends. I was wondering if anyone had the links to those posts or had any advice on pickups at the bar alone.

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[Dongfu]

Find a girl there who is by herself, probably sitting at the bar. Then you dont have to bother with all the set opening, set merging tactics. Girls at a bar alone are eagerly waiting to cling on to someone so they dont look like a loser. Find this girl and fill her need. Then fill her up.

 

[roman]

Going to the bar alone is a great way to meet women. Last night I went to the bar alone and used one opener the entire night, and ended up talking with a lot of hot women and going home with one of them.

What I've found out about approaching women at the bar when you're alone is: women of beauty are almost never alone. This is common knowledge. So you have to approach a pair or group of women usually. Start out with an open-ended question addressed to both women in the pair you approach. Personally, I like the Mystery Method's style of saying "I only have a minute, but..." and giving the women body language like you're about to leave any second while you ask the question. You don't appear threatening that way.

Also, have a brief explanation about why you're at the bar alone or where your friends are when asked. Eventually you'll want to isolate one of the women, which is probably the biggest challenge of approaching a pair of women, but the Venusian Arts Handbook does a good job of explaining this whole process.

Good luck, bro.

Roman

 

[Ace of Flames]

If you want old threads about this, try going to either the Archive or the Tips forum, and do a search.

 

[st_99]

At least you have a reason for being alone. "I just moved here!"

Thats good conversation material also.

 

[benjiprice]

It's not more effective per se, but what it does is that it removes a crutch. If you go alone to a bar you force yourself to approach because you don't have the comfort of just sticking with your friends. That's why in many cases it's more effective.

If I get asked why I'm alone, I just say that sometimes I like to go out alone to meet new people. It's simple and true.

 

[Cableguy]

It's not more effective per se, but what it does is that it removes a crutch. If you go alone to a bar you force yourself to approach because you don't have the comfort of just sticking with your friends. That's why in many cases it's more effective.

If I get asked why I'm alone, I just say that sometimes I like to go out alone to meet new people. It's simple and true.

Exactly right. Whenever I'm out alone it's not long before I'm talking to new people. Sometimes chicks, sometimes cool guys. If you're in a new city you should be meeting as many cool people as you can.