alcohol changing my game

[randalll]

it probably happens to everyone when they drink the right amount, but i find it weird how alcohol can make you so relaxed and confident, when self improvement with that goal in mind only has a small, gradual effect.

i feel like i can relate to people more after a couple of drinks, a conversation that would be awkward if i was sobre, would be easy with alcohol. i dont get aggressive, no matter how much i drink. i feel more confident, more myself. how does alcohol change you like this? i wish there was another way to immediately boost my game

 

[EFFORT]

Sounds like your stiffled before going out/while your out.... stiffled means your in your head micromanaging everything, your not in the moment just being. Most people spend the majority of there lives inside there head. If you think back on your best memories they'll most likely all be times where you were unstiffled outside of your head in the moment. Drinking the alcohol is un stiffling you....taking you out of your head and putting you in the moment.

So basically to un stifle yourself you have to do something that'll take you completely out of your head. Think about a sports team before a game when there all huddled up getting "hype" or when the coach screams at them during halftime. All that is, is them getting outside of there heads and getting into the actual moment. Theres a lot of different ways to do this, let me know if you can't come up with any and i'll list some.

 

[EFFORT]

double post, but i'll add something. Self improvement vs medications.....it'll be hard for self improvement to ever compete on a short term scale (and maybe even a long term for a med my friend that use to have terrible social anxiety changed his life with) with these things since meds and alcohol are actually going in your brain and altering the chemicals in the perfect balance. So basically giving an instant fix. Your trying to create the same effect with self improvement but its potency of change won't really compete with that of alcohol or a med unless your really pushing the self improvement front hard.

On the long term scale the self improvement will eventually over take the alcohol and meds (not to say that theres anything wrong with using either as a starting point) and give you a constant naturally unstiffled confident state without any of the side effects of the others.

 

[backbreaker]

sounds like a future AA member if I ever met one. the mintue you literarly depend on alcohol to "fuction" in one area of life than over time it will tanspire to other areas of life.

You think all the 2 million AA members in the US just started hard core drinking out of control for no reason? plenty started off for the same reason as you drink... becuase it made talking to women easier / made chicks have "more fun" / I got luckier when I drank

 

[Hennessy]

Interesting subject and EFFORT gave an interesting view. Any other opinions besides his?