"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ain't it supposed to feel tighter?

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I Was wondering ....today i was having sex with my girl and lately ive been suspecting that she could probably be cheating on me, cause i call her and she doesnt pick up the phone, she doesnt return phone calls like before and whatnot. that was in the past couple of weeks.

So today we had sex for the first time in 2 weeks exacly, now she says that she doesnt masturbate and she hasnt had her period, yet , when i went in, she wasnt tight, she was really like she is when we have sex day after day...and normally when we spend this amount of time without sex it feels way tighter...

IS there the chance that she could be fukin somebody else? ofcourse when i ask her she gets mad, but really, things dont add up.

Shes also being making the same exucuse that she made at the beginning of the RL about he dad wont let her go out , and she just pulled with this now again, after she got over that obstacle months ago, cause we have been going out at night and whatnot now all of the sudden she cant.

I dont wanna sound like im insecure or non of that, its just things are kinda fishy, i think ima go thru her phone though:D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well if you've experienced her feeling tight a day after sex and what not, then her being a little loose may not really indicate cheating. Maybe she did some leg splits or something physical that did this.

Only her actions can speak whether she may be cheating or not. Right now your only basic proof is that she is not responding to your phone calls as quickly before (did she start something new like classes/job?) - and now you're in the "physical detective" phase where you want to see records or vaginal tightness to indicate cheating.

Since we don't know the entire store of what she thinks of you, and what you and her do together. It's up to you to make a think deeper on whether or not she may be cheating on you.
 

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She could be or it could be in your head. If you got cash hire a prv investigator to follow her for a week. If you got balls well if you got balls she wouldn't be cheating.

Ninja out
 

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Black_Italian. People do not cheat just because "one person couldn't make the other happy" it could be because after awhile one or two of them find out they both don't click with each other or they think they can do better - so they start looking elsewhere.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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nah she didnt start school or a new job, same o job as before. Well she kinda did start anothe job, but it aint really a job she just goes like 1 or 2 days a week to bring this lady to the hospital or take care of her for a few hrs at her house but that shouldnt affect the Pu$$.

We was mad at each other for like a week and during that week after that, she started acting like this "suspicious" may be it is my head though, but i got the feeling that she is...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well, do some research on this site to see some of the signs of cheating (same as low interest), and then make your own judgement about whether you think it might be true or not.

If she's not a *total* slizzut, and gets into relationships for emotional connection (I'd say 80%-90% of women), then you need to look at how her actions are around you. Is she less enthusiastic about sex? Is she not as excited when you're actually having sex. Is she less affectionate in general (NOT her words...other things). Is she flaking on dates that you have already made? Is she "too tired" to hang out sometimes?

All of these signs could be cheating, but actually the same thing happens when a girl has low-interest. So perhaps she's not cheating (or is), but is just losing interest in you. I'm no DJ, but in the case of low interest, I'll bet that 90% of ppl here will tell you:

Ignore her for a while.

As in, step back, be busier with your life, and make less time for her. Play a little bit of hard to get (You don't actually totally ignore her). Then you'll see where her interest level really is.
 

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Depending on how horny she is, depends on how loose or tight she is. Sometimes, just like us, there are times they are hornier than others.

Cheating? Man, if she aint replying to your messages or returning calls, doesnt matter if she is cheating or not, it means she either has low interest or is a selfish b*tch! I wouldnt keep her around personally! Far better girls out there, you just gotta keep looking!
 

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yeh i was thinking that it could be that too, that she was really horny and turned on since we aint do it for 2 weeks.

And about the interest level stuff, that hasnt happen lately, i mean now she calls me every night even more than before like twice a night and whantnot, yesterday she told me that she would let me know if she can come over when i dropped her back to work, but she never called, ill see what happens today if she calls me or not, ill call her at 2 (on her break) to fuk her again.

The no answering phonecalls and whatnot happened while we was...well while she was mad at me over some stupidity.
 

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I'd say trust your instincts and intuition... It's usually right..

But don't make such a big deal about it.. Start making plans for the eventuality and get as much quality time (ie. $ex) out of her while you can...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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don't worry about it. women are a strange machine, sometimes they can ne so tight that u can't get in. sometimes they losen up so much that you'll slip in and hurt yourself.

she's most likey not cheating on u, but don't act paranoid. best thing to do, is wait for other signals, add them up then you can start to get worried.
 

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1. "...i call her and she doesnt pick up the phone..."
2. "...she doesnt return phone calls like before..."
3. "...ofcourse when i ask her she gets mad..."
4. "...Shes also being making the same exucuse that she made at the beginning of the RL about he dad wont let her go out , and she just pulled with this now again, after she got over that obstacle..."

^^There are the signs!

Any LTR changes after time. But some things do not change. She will ALLWAYS pick up her phone exept if you have been in a relationship for more than 3-4 years! She will allyways return your calls exept after 3-4 years of relationship. And she would never get mad about you being jelous! And for that last thing about those excuses about her dad not letting her go out, that just what it is. An excuse not to see you.

SO! Is she cheating you? Have no clue. Does she still love you? eee.. probably not!

Think about it. When you have done something wrong and somebody catches you, you respond aggresivly to defend your self if you have no better excuse!
 

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all those things i said that u listed happened while she was mad at me so i understand that is not happening now, the only thing happening now is the dad one.
 

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Been ther myself.

Are you truly happy currently in the relationship? Not they way she USED to make you feel, but the way she makes you feel NOW.

If not, sorry to say, you probably should dumper her. :kick:

It sounds like you tried to work things out but it ain't working. This way at least you'll have some dignity left.

Sarge on!
:up:
 

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^^Im not unhappy, i could be happier but im far from unhappy, the only thing that bothers me is her attitude, getting mad for anything, even over her own lies, but shes slowed that down, and like i said like now i call she always pick up or calls me back within 5 mins.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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