"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Aiming for the wrong target?

Ol'BlueEyes

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After approaching many women, and getting little in the way of meaningful relationships, I'm left wondering if I'm coming at it wrong.
I don't have any close friends; the closest people I know are married or engaged. I ask them how they met, and they always say, "well, so-and-so introduced us."
Do most LTRs begin through mutual friends? It sure seems that way. My brother, for example, is getting married in August (I'm the best man, and will milk it for all it's worth) and he met his fiance through a friend of his. I'm the only person in the party who is single with no guest, and I admit it is frustrating when distant relations ask me, "So, when are YOU getting hitched?" :rolleyes:
I got a bit off topic, but should I get some friends before looking for love? People who know my likes/dislikes, and can introduce me to women with the same? Or should I keep plowing through the singles scene, playing hit and miss?
In short, should I get some bros before hos?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ol'BlueEyes

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I'm not just thinking guys as friends, but friends in general. You never know who has a hot sister, cousin, daughter, whatever. Perhaps my bros before hos comment threw you off.
 

JohnJones

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I think that's right. I can't imagine that there are all that many LTRs of quality with origins on the South Side. Most people I know who are married/dating/engaged went to school together or worked together.
 
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