"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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R4dianeclipse

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Is it even worth trying to get good conversation on the internet with a girl who you don't really know? Each time I try to talk to a girl and make good conversation on AIM, it ends up that I am asking a bunch of questions making statements and getting horrible responses like "Oh yeah huh" and then nothing else. Either it is just the fact that we don't know eachother too well or I'm just going about it wrong. Any ideas what it could be?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i am me

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i usually dont start conversations wit girls...but if they talk to me, ill try to keep them entertained...jus dont take yourself seriously on AIM and youll be fine
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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EdHunter

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superchill89 said:
i dont' know, i'm sure it works, but i personally just hate talking online except to people who i know very well. i'm the opposite of most people who think talking online is easier, i actually think its a lot less awkward and more natural to talk in person.
I agree....because so much of our communication is nonverbal... all of the little body language hints, facial expressions, subtle inflections with voice, posture...none of those can be communicated, except with the most banal of emoticons.
 

yungahdubz

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Some girl that i dont know recently added me on msn, friend of a friends, and we've been chatting loads lately and having fun and interesting convo's. So ye it's possible, think you might just be going about it the wrong way.
 

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I realized through the little amount of training I've had that it's MUCH harder to talk to a girl on AIM or online than it is in person. In person, you can see her reactions, place inflection in your voice, and most importantly, initiate KINO.

-Sachiel, DJ in Training
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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