"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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oElS

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how often if any should one use aim to talk? I mean is it at all productive talking on aim?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's no different with any communication device.

If you intend to BS with it then no its not productive

If you intend to to use it for quick and percise conversation then sure it's fine

Leave the BS to talking in person.
 

California Love

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Some of the best convos i've had were on aim because you're given time to think your responses and there's absolutely no pressure.
 

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Originally posted by California Love
Some of the best convos i've had were on aim because you're given time to think your responses and there's absolutely no pressure.
Yea and that's the problem.

No pressure means no EC, no kino, no tone of voice, no facial expressions, etc.
 

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AIM's okay to use occasionally but don't make it too much of a habit just to talk on AIM. You need to develop some sort of social skills sooner or later and you can't really rely on AIM to have a good convo(not saying that you need any help) but try to limit your convos on AIM unless you're in a LTR with someone because you're giving off the impression that you have nothing else better to do and have no life.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by AC/DC
AIM is a turnoff to women. Absolutely.
Even if they REALLY wanna talk to you and thats there only way to get in touch at first???????
 

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In that case I would only use AIM to set up a date. Talking in person is ALWAYS superior - it gives you a chance to gauge her IL, administer kino, etc. I prefer talking in person to talking on the phone or on AIM because its so much more personal and exciting.
 

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AIM/ MSN / ICQ...

Leave it for your male friends, no more. I leave my MSN on most of the time, however, I only have my male friends on it. I have a seperate account for the females I know, so that if I need to talk to them for a particular reason I can just switch over. Most of the time I'm not on my computer, so it's alot easier to just sign into one account with my buds on it and not be bothered about girls I'm trying to DJ that are logged on.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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