NEWBIE101
Senior Don Juan
Is it bad if you IM the girl you like? Will it show that you are desperate and weak?
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Some DJ's don't like to talk to girls over AIM because you can not judge thier reaction, initiate kino, ect. Plus, when the conversation hits a dead spot, it tends to be longer because you have to wait for the other person to type. If you want to talk to her, call her or wait until you see her again.
NEWBIE101
Senior Don Juan
Thanks. But was it bad that I IM'd her. Should I just not IM her next time and log off leaving her wondering why I didn't IM her. The problem with that though is that she might think I'm not interested.
I don't think it was that bad, but the general concenous on the board for a while was that you shouldn't talk to them online. Also, some people think that by you not IM'ing her, you can leave her guessing and she might try harder to get you. Hopefully someone like Anthony or Matrix, or someone else along those lines see's this soon.Originally posted by NEWBIE101
Thanks. But was it bad that I IM'd her. Should I just not IM her next time and log off leaving her wondering why I didn't IM her. The problem with that though is that she might think I'm not interested.
UltimateScoundrel
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Its okay, just keep it short and sweet, you are almost always just checking your e-mail, will talk to her later, and you log off. Simple. Shows you have the courtesy to talk to her, but are to busy to waste your life at the computer because you have more important things to do.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Mikelo2k
Senior Don Juan
What if you dont have other things to do and waste your life at the computer? ;/
*cough* not me of course ;\
*cough* not me of course ;\
CableLight
Master Don Juan
AIM is kinda like the most borderline act of hari kari you can commit...
As already mentioned, it:
1) Gives you a bad/no sense of their actual reactions.
2) Eliminates all possibilites of kino.
3) Loses that "personal" touch of an actual conversation.
4) Seems more prone to "dead air" time.
5) Essentially limits what you can do.
Personally, I'd stear clear of it for getting chicks. Given, though, that it seems easier to talk to people over the internet than it does in person, but it's still probably best to save AIM for your buds. Failing that, try not to spend too much time on an AIM conversation (like maybe 7 minutes), and all that conversation should be doing is setting up a different meeting place or the like.
As already mentioned, it:
1) Gives you a bad/no sense of their actual reactions.
2) Eliminates all possibilites of kino.
3) Loses that "personal" touch of an actual conversation.
4) Seems more prone to "dead air" time.
5) Essentially limits what you can do.
Personally, I'd stear clear of it for getting chicks. Given, though, that it seems easier to talk to people over the internet than it does in person, but it's still probably best to save AIM for your buds. Failing that, try not to spend too much time on an AIM conversation (like maybe 7 minutes), and all that conversation should be doing is setting up a different meeting place or the like.
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Don Juan
I would also advise against AIM. It's tempting to be able to just copy and paste some scripts from ASF, or patterns, but it just doesn't work like it does in person.