"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AIM Block or Delete? Your opinions?

FM 3321

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It's been a month since I've talked to my ex and I've totally refrained from contacting her but in the past couple days I noticed she's been signing on AIM and all I know was that around Christmas she was supposed to get a new computer. It looks like she has it set up now and when I see the screenname I think of her.


So I don't want to play games with away messages she can read or stuff like that but should I just delete her name off my buddy list or block her? I feel kinda pathetic asking this but hey, maybe some else had a similar question. Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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RogueWarrior

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Save yourself the anguish and delete her. "E" and "X" are the middle two letters of NEXT.
 

diablo

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Just delete her name from your list. Blocking her after several months seems childish and petty. Who cares if she reads your away message? She's your ex!
 

FM 3321

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Well I deleted her name. I feel lot better than having it blocked and sh!t like that. It's funny since it's like I haven't talked to her this whole time and now her screenname starts popping up all of the sudden. I sure as hell don't need that as a reminder now.
 

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Agreed. I've gotten the AOL names of several girls that I've been in relationships with from them while we were dating; whenever things end (as they always do), the first thing I do is to delete those names from my buddy list. No sense in looking at the past every time you and she are online.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PeeGee

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I've blocked my ex who knows how frigging long ago and she still indrectly (read: passively) contacts me from time to time. For example during christmas I received a text message of merry christmas. Though I received it much later since I had better things to do.

Then I was loading up my spam email account to clear out the spam, and noticed that there was a 3rd attempt to get me to join this free SMS program for telephones. I received the first one a while ago and laughed about it. Now there's a 3rd? Hilarious.

You blocked her? Good for you! Now don't give it a second thought.
 

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I just deleted my ex's. Blocking her seems childish and not to mention would prove that you obviously have some issues with her still. So regardless if you do or don't, just delete her name. Although, be aware that if you're still hung up on this girl you need to commit yourself to not having anything to do with her, so no checking up on away messages, no away message games, etc.

I feel like a nerd now for writing that.. but oh well, lol.
 

DeathDealer

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I would just get rid of instant messaging all together after reading thread upon thread of guys like you guys doing all these techniques to avoid ex's or past girls.

Email programs nowadays have a thing called a "Contact List" so you can collect emails and send them out to whoever you want selectively. And if a girl you don't like sends you an email, you can just simply ignore it.
 
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