"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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AIM/AOL Usage w/ Girls

CoRVeTTe6699

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is it better to not go online at all when u like a certain girl? or is it better to go online and not IM the girl u like and wait for her to im you...

i rmemeber when i had a gf i never imed her cuz i didnt like her that much and she used to im me and say how i never IM her and that drove her crazy and she wouldnt leave me alone... when I IMEd girls they seem to not like me and dont talk much.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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xomel

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why do all your questions pertain to the internet in some way? Get off your ass and go out more.
 

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It's better to not care about stupid sh*t like this...There isn't a rule for everything.
 

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True, but the less your online and not worrying about it, the more you can be out spending time with your gf..think about it
 

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Originally posted by CoRVeTTe6699
is it better to not go online at all when u like a certain girl? or is it better to go online and not IM the girl u like and wait for her to im you...

i rmemeber when i had a gf i never imed her cuz i didnt like her that much and she used to im me and say how i never IM her and that drove her crazy and she wouldnt leave me alone... when I IMEd girls they seem to not like me and dont talk much.
Honestly i don't think any real Don Juan knows the answer to a question this completely AFC. YOu know what would work, is if you get off you f*cking ass and got out there and talked to chicks in person.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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if you arent stalking her on the net then theres no problem. u need more confidence, $h*t like this doesnt really matter that much. what matters more is that when u do talk to get a date with the girl. whether a girl ims u or not depends on her self confidence. a girl who thinks shes all that will im u if she feels like talking to u. other girls may be afraid to initiate an im, because they don't wanna seem like stalkers.
 

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Just because you like a girl does not mean you need to change your habits or whatever it is that you typically do. What you should do is start doing things to make yourself feel more confident about yourself. If you're asking this, you're probably online too much all together, so what you should do is get up and go out. Find activities to do outside, maybe get a summer job. Anything will make you more interesting and make it seem like you have time to spend and someone has to work for your time.

As for IMing the girl that you like. If she's interested in you, she'll IM you. It gets annoying when you IM people all the time, but when you IM someone, you either have something interesting to say or genuwinely interested in their lives. Quit IMing her all together. If she doesn't IM you at all, then go ahead, try talking to her. But ultimately, try to get her out on a date and forget about the internet thing. I know many of the people here are chatting it up often seeing that this is an online message board.

Basically, the time you spend getting to know a person should be with that person, one on one. Not talking to her while you're looking at porn or checking your email. She might be doing the same. If anything, get her number, call her, set up a date, go on the date, have fun, kiss close, end deal.
 

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Re: Re: AIM/AOL Usage w/ Girls

Originally posted by Vincent
Honestly i don't think any real Don Juan knows the answer to a question this completely AFC. YOu know what would work, is if you get off you f*cking ass and got out there and talked to chicks in person.

like 15% of the posts in the highschool forum are you, they are all AFC. half of them you talk about how you meet girls on the internet.
 

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Re: Re: Re: AIM/AOL Usage w/ Girls

Originally posted by xomel
like 15% of the posts in the highschool forum are you, they are all AFC. half of them you talk about how you meet girls on the internet.
Oops misread it first time ^.^

Well for everyone who thinks aim is a good tool, do me a favor. Look in every single bible post and tell me where you find the "Don juans guide to getting HB through aim". Oh wait it doesn't exist, because NO ONE LEARNED THROUGH AIM.

Please, I didn't get where i am today by talking to people on aim. Neither did pook, tonythetigerOI(lorenzo), crazy kid, AC/DC(whatupwitdat)

Perhaps use some better grammar next time.

Like 15% of the posts in the highschool forum are like you, all the rest are AFC. Half of them talk about how to meet girls on the internet.

Ok Love ya lots

--Vincent

ps. i just heard a cricket in my vent, i'm gonna catch it!

pps. AH HA caught that SOB, so i threw it in my trashcan in the bathroom. hehe
 

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Originally posted by CoRVeTTe6699
i rmemeber when i had a gf...
Woah.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I find that girls will leave it for about 10mins when they come online then IM me (i think they are waiting for me to IM then) and then they will talk so much and im saying hardly nothing.

And when i was AFC i used to IM then when they came online straight away and they would hardly talk.
 

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yup..i usually wait for them to IM me unless i got somethin important to ask em..or unless i gotta go soon and wanna make plans with em...most of the time AIM signs on and i dont even know it..so i get a couple "fine dont say hi to me first" things...
 

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Just use AIM to spread a quick message to a mass of people. Example: an open house part

My friends and I personally create AIM chatrooms to discuss plans for the night, rathar then calling everyone.

That's all you should use AIM for. In my opinion anyway.
 

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yeah, using instant messengers cuts back on things to talk about when you're actually spending time with them face to face. this i realized can be especially true for girls who live out in really open areas... i was at a barbeque party thing today, and my girlfriend and i didn't really talk quite as much 'cause we'd just talked the day before on msn... it can really make the person-to-person talks difficult.
 

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Why are you talking to a girl who you like on IM?

I mean, I assume you have her phone number.

I assume she likes you back.

I assume you two are dating.

I assume you don't have so much free time that you lounge around on AIM talking to girls.

Am I going too far here? Do you understand what I'm trying to tell you? I'm getting sick of repeating this message.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by kevbo
yeah, using instant messengers cuts back on things to talk about when you're actually spending time with them face to face. this i realized can be especially true for girls who live out in really open areas... i was at a barbeque party thing today, and my girlfriend and i didn't really talk quite as much 'cause we'd just talked the day before on msn... it can really make the person-to-person talks difficult.
i completly agree with you....i dont know why i thought aim was so great for such a long time....ive completly changed my mind about it now though...i had the phone number to almost all the girls i talked to online and i could have gotten a date with any of them anyday but instead i sat home and talked to them online.....

i finally got the point and i earased some 70 girls screennames and checked the option of "only ppl who are in my buddy list can talk to me..... now i only talk occasionally to guy friends.....

aim is good to a certain point....for example when youre making the transition from an afc to a dj...... bc you can really pick up some experience and test out things how they work and stuff.....but after that a dj has no buisness talking to a girl online
 

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Hell, me and my girlfriend talk online almost all the time. We see each other a lot too.

It depends on the girl and how well you know them. My girlfriend and I always find something to talk about and we get along great. Then there are some girls that talk to me online that I can't even hold a convo with.
 

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Re: Re: Re: Re: AIM/AOL Usage w/ Girls

Originally posted by Vincent
Oops misread it first time ^.^

Well for everyone who thinks aim is a good tool, do me a favor. Look in every single bible post and tell me where you find the "Don juans guide to getting HB through aim". Oh wait it doesn't exist, because NO ONE LEARNED THROUGH AIM.

Please, I didn't get where i am today by talking to people on aim. Neither did pook, tonythetigerOI(lorenzo), crazy kid, AC/DC(whatupwitdat)

Perhaps use some better grammar next time.

Like 15% of the posts in the highschool forum are like you, all the rest are AFC. Half of them talk about how to meet girls on the internet.

Ok Love ya lots

--Vincent

ps. i just heard a cricket in my vent, i'm gonna catch it!

pps. AH HA caught that SOB, so i threw it in my trashcan in the bathroom. hehe
oops im sorry i didnt mean to direct that to you. I directed towards corvette6699 or whatever. I was just agreeing with what you said and adding to it. sorry man! you're the best. im a dumbass and i should learn to post
 

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Or if you DO go online a lot and don't want to talk to her, have two or three accounts.
 
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