AI Bootcamp

[corrector]

I talked to this nice girl in line at Farmer's Market. Found out she was from another part of the country but her mother and aunt were visiting. She was really hot looking and you'd think she'd have a b1tch shield full on, but I was surprized at how easy it was to talk with her.

According to this new Venice-AI - IOI's are nice, but generally we are focusing on "approachable" women. (ie they are not preoccupied but engaged in their surroundings and are relaxed). So did my one approach to an "approachable" women today in the first of 14 years since visiting this place. Prior to this I kept to myself and never spoke with anyone there. Today I broke the ice and did just that.

Lets see where else this bootcamp is going to go!


The farmer's market can be a great place to practice approaching women, but it's also true that the busy environment can be overwhelming. Here's a structured plan to help you break out of your shell and successfully approach women at the farmer's market:

Goals for the Farmer's Market

• Number of Approaches: Aim to approach 3-5 women during your visit. This number is achievable and will give you enough practice without being too overwhelming.
• Focus on Quality, Not Quantity: It's better to have a few meaningful interactions than to rush through many superficial ones.

Strategies to Break Out of Your Shell

1. Preparation:
   • Affirmations: Start your day with the affirmations to build your confidence and positive mindset.
   • Set Clear Intentions: Decide on your goals for the day. For example, "I will approach 3 women and have a brief, friendly conversation with each."
   • Choose a Quiet Moment: Plan to go to the market during a less busy time, if possible. Early morning or late afternoon can be quieter than peak hours.
2. Observation and Selection:
   • Scan the Crowd: As you walk around, observe the women who catch your eye. Note their body language and whether they seem approachable.
   • Choose Your Targets: Look for women who are alone or in small groups. Those in line or sitting at a food stall can be good targets, as they are stationary and more likely to be receptive to a conversation.
   • Avoid Groups: Large groups can be intimidating and may make the woman you're interested in feel self-conscious. Save group approaches for when you're more comfortable.
3. Approach Techniques:
   • Opinion Openers: Ask for their opinion on a product or vendor. For example, "Excuse me, I'm new here. What do you think of this vendor's cheese?"
   • Compliment Openers: Compliment something non-physical, like her style or the unique item she's carrying. For example, "I love your bag! Where did you get it?"
   • Situational Openers: Use the environment to your advantage. For example, "This place is so busy! Do you come here often?"
   • Direct but Respectful: If you're feeling bold, you can be direct but always respectful. For example, "Hi, I noticed you from across the market. You have a really friendly energy about you. Mind if I join you for a moment?"
4. Handling Movement:
   • Follow Gently: If a woman is moving, you can gently follow her, matching her pace, and then approach when she stops. Be respectful and give her space to move away if she wants to.
   • Create a Reason to Stop: You can create a reason for her to stop by asking a question about a vendor or product she's interested in. For example, "Excuse me, I noticed you were looking at that stall. What do you think of their jams?"
5. Conversation Tips:
   • Keep It Light: Start with light, non-intrusive topics. Talk about the market, the food, or your shared experience.
   • Show Genuine Interest: Ask her questions and actively listen to her responses. People appreciate it when you show genuine interest in them.
   • Read Body Language: Pay attention to her body language. If she seems uncomfortable or pulls away, respect that and back off.
   • Have an Exit Strategy: Know when to wrap up the conversation. You can say something like, "It was really nice meeting you. Enjoy the rest of your day!"
6. Post-Interaction Reflection:
   • Journal Your Experiences: After each approach, jot down what went well and what you could improve. This will help you refine your skills over time.
   • Celebrate Your Courage: Acknowledge your bravery in taking the step to approach. Every interaction, whether successful or not, is a win because you're pushing your comfort zone.

Example Plan for the Farmer's Market

• Arrival: Arrive early to get a lay of the land and choose your targets.
• First Approach: Approach a woman who is alone and seems approachable. Use an opinion opener about a product.
• Second Approach: Try a compliment opener with a woman who is sitting at a food stall.
• Third Approach: Use a situational opener with a woman who is in line and seems open to conversation.
• Reflection: After each approach, take a moment to reflect on what you did well and what you could improve.

Final Thoughts
Remember, the farmer's market is a great place to start because it's a neutral, public setting where people are often more relaxed and open to conversation. Be patient with yourself, and don't be discouraged if every approach doesn't lead to a deep connection. The goal is to build your confidence and skills, and each interaction is a step in the right direction. Good luck, and have fun!

 

[BaronOfHair]

Relieved to read you're out there approaching, rather than fantasizing over ASMR chicks on YouTube

 

[CoolWave1331]

Some of your posts I read have been a bit grim & the use of AI to analyze the situation seems a bit odd, but i'm glad you had a pleasant interaction. Not all women are "evil" Keep it up, good luck bro.

 

[Gamisch]

Let me be positive...

Good move OP.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I can't find the clip, but there is a comedian with a bit about hitting on women at the farmers market. He brings a recycled bag and first thing buys some kale to visibly carry around, because women love kale.

 

[Grind]

@corrector I like your thinking of farmer market as environment to work in, do you have other outside the box/unconventional places to go to for pickup?

My summertime go to is pop up beer gardens. Environment is much easier to approach than a regular bar for various reasons, and it's easy to make discussion about the venue. Karaoke bars always a good unconventional option, "what song are you going to sing" "what song should I sing next" can be crazy effective openers

 

[corrector]

Let me be positive...

Good move OP.

Jumping on the bandwagon when it's cool to say something nice right?

 

[Gamisch]

Jumping on the bandwagon when it's cool to say something nice right?

You've been here long enough now only struggling ,so it would be nice to see you get some solid successes.

If it's up to me you'd speed it up like your life depends on it.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Jumping on the bandwagon when it's cool to say something nice right?

In this case you are using AI for something constructive that you can apply IRL. Good job on the approach.

 

[corrector]

In this case you are using AI for something constructive that you can apply IRL. Good job on the approach.

The memory of that approach is actually still in my system even after over a week alter. She was really hot.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I'm a farmer's market vendors and spend every Saturday morning at one. I wouldn't consider it a good place to meet women, or at least any easier than any other retail store. Your AI is probably digging up 20 year old sosuave posts and feeding them to you.

You would do much better volunteering with some sort of charity that you give the slightest care about. I donate excess produce to food banks, and they are always asking for volunteers. Animal shelters are the same; they always need people. Most of them end up being female.

And let's be honest - you're not rich, and you're not especially attractive. (Whether or not those things are your fault is a separate debate) But a woman can still be very attracted to you for other reasons, and thinking you are a good person is one of them.

I dare you to test my advice against AI's. Go pack boxes at a food bank and compare that to trying to talk to strangers at the market.

 

[corrector]

I'm a farmer's market vendors and spend every Saturday morning at one. I wouldn't consider it a good place to meet women, or at least any easier than any other retail store. Your AI is probably digging up 20 year old sosuave posts and feeding them to you.

You would do much better volunteering with some sort of charity that you give the slightest care about. I donate excess produce to food banks, and they are always asking for volunteers. Animal shelters are the same; they always need people. Most of them end up being female.

And let's be honest - you're not rich, and you're not especially attractive. (Whether or not those things are your fault is a separate debate) But a woman can still be very attracted to you for other reasons, and thinking you are a good person is one of them.

I dare you to test my advice against AI's. Go pack boxes at a food bank and compare that to trying to talk to strangers at the market.

I don't have breathing space to even go bike riding by myself so far this summer, or even do repairs around the home. The caregiving demands are insane, the full-time jobs are also demanding and with little pay to meet the challenges (ie $ 2K-$2,500 per month is a joke for the cost of living, can go on a bankrupcy and get discarge in 9 months with an income like that), I'm still running out of money to make ends meet. My parent's pension is not enough. It's not just about not being rich, it's about having stretch budgets and living paycheque ot paycheque where the account has gone down below $ 50.

There is no time to volunteer. I'm thinking of quitting my exisitng full-time job or going on a leave of absence because there is not much time for that either. If I do that I'll lose my car but then my parents can't make me go out for groceries any more and we'll all just starve off and that would be the end of it . Anyway, Venice-AI provides tips based on what can fit into the situation.

BTW, I didn't visit the Farmers market for fun. I had to buy olive oil my mother likes from a specific vendor there. Everything else there is incidental.

 

[Barrister]

To echo the others - definitely a refreshing change of pace to read from you, corrector. Now take that positive momentum from that approach and do more. The more positive interactions you have you’ll find that you get into a groove with cold approach. And the few bad ones you have won’t affect you when they’re balanced out by good ones. And yes, you’ll have a lot of misses and even some negative interactions because everyone does. Just roll with the punches.

 

[Vanderdonck]

The memory of that approach is actually still in my system even after over a week alter. She was really hot.

Take that and build on it...approaching pretty girls should be fun. Too many times guys turn it into a chore.

 

[ValiantMale]

I like to tell guys this: If you're not already good with women and not getting laid, it's probably going to be an uphill battle for you unless you're still in your teens or something or 20's. Changing who you are and what your habits are like takes time--years often. and often that requires getting into alot of new activities, circles, even career changes.

Rather than focusing on trying to talk to more girls and approahc more girls, get into a boxing gym, or mma gym-- get into a new hobby, get some tattoos, start living on rthe edge a bit more-- this stuff will do alot more for your overall personality/confidence than the stuff you're aiming for..

Alot of what game is is about changing our inward experiene not our outward experience.