"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ahhh! i'm an *******!

dannowillbookem

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i remember reading when i first started here...dont be a 'nice guy'. it stuck with me. i was definetly too nice to everyone at the time, constantly trying to please others.

so, of course, i went opposite.

now im mean. a girl andrea i know i regularly insult for her intelligence, and a girl cali i make fun of how thin her legs are. a girl lauren i make fun of her 'chest herpes' and the list goes on. i dont mean to be mean, and usually a girl will laugh, but its kinda more of a self concious thing. is being a jerk bad? this is unexplored territory, as i never see articles about it or anything. my game blows lately (explaining my return to the forums) and could this be part of it?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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kev me723

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woah now, let's not start making fun of things people are seriously insecure about. I had your same problem somewhat. You do not want to be poking fun at "chest herpies" and skinny legs. Just for example, call a girl a nerd or a stoner jokingly, especially if they are not those things and even better if they are just a little nerdy or have smoked weed like once or twice, those things will work magic. Joke about unimportant things. That way you are called a 'jerk' in a joking way, not a serious way. That kind of jerk gets laid. trust me. Stay away from things they are really insecure about (small boobs, bump in the nose, etc) you're better off going opposite rather than being serious when you are making fun of/joking with.
 

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a good idea would be to go to the bible and read pook's articles under the jerk vs. nice guy section if you havent already.
 
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