Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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ahhh! i'm an *******!

dannowillbookem

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i remember reading when i first started here...dont be a 'nice guy'. it stuck with me. i was definetly too nice to everyone at the time, constantly trying to please others.

so, of course, i went opposite.

now im mean. a girl andrea i know i regularly insult for her intelligence, and a girl cali i make fun of how thin her legs are. a girl lauren i make fun of her 'chest herpes' and the list goes on. i dont mean to be mean, and usually a girl will laugh, but its kinda more of a self concious thing. is being a jerk bad? this is unexplored territory, as i never see articles about it or anything. my game blows lately (explaining my return to the forums) and could this be part of it?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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kev me723

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woah now, let's not start making fun of things people are seriously insecure about. I had your same problem somewhat. You do not want to be poking fun at "chest herpies" and skinny legs. Just for example, call a girl a nerd or a stoner jokingly, especially if they are not those things and even better if they are just a little nerdy or have smoked weed like once or twice, those things will work magic. Joke about unimportant things. That way you are called a 'jerk' in a joking way, not a serious way. That kind of jerk gets laid. trust me. Stay away from things they are really insecure about (small boobs, bump in the nose, etc) you're better off going opposite rather than being serious when you are making fun of/joking with.
 

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a good idea would be to go to the bible and read pook's articles under the jerk vs. nice guy section if you havent already.
 
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