"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ah, crap. I thought too much and got nervous and now can't stop.

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Any advice on just simply relaxing? I want to call this girl but I went and thought to much and I'm now nervous as ****. Unfortunately while trying to stop being nervous my body's made me more nervous in this stupid little cycle.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Call a platonic female friend first and talk to her for 15 minutes. Then immediately hang up and call this girl. What's ?he going to do - come through the phone and eat you?
 
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Hahaha. Funny you suggested that. I'm talking to this girl I've known since elementary school online right now (Not the same thing as calling but whatever). It's just irrational fear spawned from other fear (Like "Oh **** I gotta stop being nervous or I'm ****ED!"). I'm feeling better now.
 
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I hope its not too late my friend but right now would be the worst time to call. Your nervousness can come off as insecurity and neediness. Even if you can hide it chicks have a sixth sense for this stuff. When I go through this I just don't call and decide to call the next day, but I try doing it on the snap, I dont think too much about it before I make the call I just do it. You can think and get nervous after you hang up.
 
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Nah, it was cool. I called her up and then my friend (Her cousin) came in and things went smoothly. Because of that I had a reason to not stay on the phone long and I got a bit of rapport going. I didn't get to ask her out but she knows I smoke weed so that's pretty cool.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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