Method Boy
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Lol, oneitis over an HB7.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
After years of 0 problems I thought I was finally immune to oneitis
- Thread starter Mr. Delicious
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ToeHair????? That's the best you got . . . Your oneitis is going to get crazy, but don't worry, embrace the oneitis, if you never got oneitis then all the pick-up strategies would be worthless because you wouldn't care less about being with any one girl and any girl would be sufficient.
squirrels
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One-itis is a symptom of low self-esteem. You're either doubting you "have what it takes" to be with this girl or you're doubting whether you have what it takes to be WITHOUT this girl.
Which is ridiculous...you have both. You need to cultivate your self-esteem and work on being complete with yourself.
Dating other women on the side while you build your relationship with this girl gives you "options", which is the classic way to deal with these feelings. But then if your options, for whatever reason, are unavailable at the same time as your one-itis, it'll just feel even worse and make the one-itis even more profound.
Start dating women for the experience, rather than to fill a need for affection or validation. This is the ONLY way to get over one-itis. It also means, though, that your traditional media-accepted idea of "love" goes out the window. The question is...how bad do you WANT to be happy with your life?
Which is ridiculous...you have both. You need to cultivate your self-esteem and work on being complete with yourself.
Dating other women on the side while you build your relationship with this girl gives you "options", which is the classic way to deal with these feelings. But then if your options, for whatever reason, are unavailable at the same time as your one-itis, it'll just feel even worse and make the one-itis even more profound.
Start dating women for the experience, rather than to fill a need for affection or validation. This is the ONLY way to get over one-itis. It also means, though, that your traditional media-accepted idea of "love" goes out the window. The question is...how bad do you WANT to be happy with your life?
Mr. Delicious
Senior Don Juan
Ok well over the past few weeks I have been able to kill my one itis for this girl. I don't know how i did it. I am still at this point wanting to bang her though. We went out tonight with a bunch of my friends. At first it was going great. She was touching me and flirting with me hard core. Then as the night progressed she started flirting with other guys which i knew would happen. So I just played it cool and kept talking to my friends.
Her atittude changed later though when we were isolated from the others. She became much more frigid. Not flirting much and not responding to any of my touching. At the end of the night she just gave me a hug and went home. I think i am through trying to hook up with this girl though. Way too much effort.
Her atittude changed later though when we were isolated from the others. She became much more frigid. Not flirting much and not responding to any of my touching. At the end of the night she just gave me a hug and went home. I think i am through trying to hook up with this girl though. Way too much effort.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.