"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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After the NC challenge has finished...

mikey2012

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So you gone with 60 days with NC but you still feel hung up on her. It hurts less but she is still on your mind. Sure, you are in a better state when you first broke up but there are still lingering feelings. You cant still forget her.

Assuming you broke up under exentuating circumstances, ie. she wasnt a biatch, cheat on you (e.g Jariel's case) then this what you could do.

Send her simple text asking how she is? Ie. How are you?

If she responds favorable, this means she is also not entirely over you.
I prefer text over email since its more spontaneous and you can gauge from her response time if she is eager to talk.
Keep the first text short and simple and if you catch her replying back, DONT talk about what happened in the past unless its good memories. Stress how you have been without her. Then after take it slow, You need to start from the ground up. Do not mention anything about getting back together. Good Luck.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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El Payaso

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Wow. Are you f**king serious? You clearly don't understand the concept of NC. Hopefully, the mods delete this nonsense.
 
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mikey2012 said:
Send her simple text asking how she is? Ie. How are you?

If she responds favorable, this means she is also not entirely over you.
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if she responds favorably after 60 days NC she's probably afraid you're going to murder her or something and is just trying to stay on your good side. don't read too much into it.
 

May_Day

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After 60 days, you should be banging other girls not even thinking about her. This is dumb, it defeats the whole purpose of NC. She should be texting YOU to see how YOU are doing because she still isn't over you yet . An ex is an ex, no point in trying to reinitiate contact. If she was so great, then there would be no reason to break up.

mikey2012 said:
Assuming you broke up under exentuating circumstances, ie. she wasnt a biatch, cheat on you (e.g Jariel's case) then this what you could do.
No reason to be crawling back to an ex. What's done is done, so let it be.
 

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This is the type of advice up and coming DJ's SHOULD NOT listen to. I hope the mods do the right thing and have this garbage deleted.

No Contact means NO CONTACT. Use it to get on with your life. If you wan't the girl back bad enough, wait until she contacts you and let her earn your love and attention back. That simple.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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