"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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After the man or the house

ThatGuyTR

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Met this girl in freshman year of college. We would talk late on the phone for hours at a time, almost nightly. Went out a few times, but nothing major spurred out of it. I took a hiatus from college and the contact dissipated with it. Upon my return to school, contact was reestablished but didn’t flourish since she was in a LTR (which resulted in a child) and I eventually ended up in one sometime thereafter. When we did see each other on campus, we would have a short conversations and I helped her with some of her classes. In one of the passing conversations, she told me that she wanted to bang back when but that didn’t happen (I was AFC back then and just didn’t pick up the hint). For me assisting with her classes, she agreed to take me out to dinner.

Fast forward to recent… she’s (been) out of her LTR, I’m out of my LTR, we live about 2 hrs apart, and I’ve accomplished the American Dream (homeowner). She sends a text out the blue saying hey and we have had multiple conversations per week since. The dinner "outing" has been set later this month when I'll be closer to her.

Is She trying to get what she has wanted for a while (me) or she just trying to improve her status (move in house)?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blind_one

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Like Ruler said, you are over thinking. Just go with it and see where it goes.
 
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