"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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After one month of No contact see what she did

Monster DJ

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So this flaky girl i made a post about, she flaked on me twice and showed to have a flaky personality.. i went no contact as advised after the last flake without explanation.. she called like hell during the first and second week of NC.. then stopped.. so today she called twice (one month+ later), my phone ranged for long.. i didn't pick up.. ( i felt badass but my conscience was receptive while my phone rang).. She does know or get a clue that it's her flakiness that caused NC, but i just went ghost without an explanation and unwilling to answer her call suddenly could be the reason she's calling to find out what's wrong? thoughts? because after the flake, i was calm and cool and told her alright when she said we should reschedule for tomorrow... can't she just get the message?

Sorry for the click bait-like title.. lol.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She's probably (90% chance) gotten away with flakey behaviour her whole life. You're likely, the first person to show a backbone, in a world full of worms.

Not suprised.:D
 
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wifehunter said:
She's probably (90% chance) gotten away with flakey behaviour her whole life. You're likely, the first person to show a backbone, in a world full of worms.

Not suprised.:D
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Yeah i like the bolded... Anyways December is coming and i know I'll come across her one of this days, she's gonna be asking: What did i do wrong etc (to try and get validation etc)... Girls here can get aggressive and start holding my hand apologizing and demanding an explanation etc (and i once like this beech), how do I handle such a situation?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

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I think the best option is to make it seem like a cool, detached, unemotional answer. A "Yeah, that's just how life goes" kind of answer (an I don't give a **** way). I would have a token amount of truth in there, so you believe what you're saying as well. Partly annoying because it seems to trigger more investigation from them. Having been there when I was much younger, with a coworker flirtation - she'd constantly be on and off about 'What's wrong' and crap like that. Was completely annoying, because how do you answer?

Thinking of an idea of referring to something else in your life that's 'occupying your mind' - like school studies or a cool hobby or something of partial interest (showing you have focus in life). Just as long as it has nothing to do with her. You'll have to think about whether or not this is a good idea - but a thought.
 
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She keeps calling, she called twice yesterday afternoon and once this evening.. i still didn't pick up..thoughts? why is she contacting? is she trying to say she regrets what she did? she hasn't texted to express her feelings about my NC etc.. thoughts? why the calls? should i block number!?

cc: @Urbanyst @dude99 @RedScorpion @wifehunter
 
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Monster DJ said:
She keeps calling, she called twice yesterday afternoon and once this evening.. i still didn't pick up..thoughts? why is she contacting? is she trying to say she regrets what she did? she hasn't texted to express her feelings about my NC etc.. thoughts? why the calls? should i block number!?

cc: @Urbanyst @dude99 @RedScorpion @wifehunter
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You can block her number and and be done with her , or you can answer the next time.she calls and say

"I am crazy busy. I only have a couple of minutes." And seriously ONLY GIVE HER 3 MINUTES MAX.

When she asks what is wrong DO NOT PLAY. She knows her flaky behaviou dropped your intetest in her all together. You did to her what no other guy has done before.

You stood your ground and didn't chase her.

You now have her hampster wheel going 1000 miles an hour.

When she asks what is wrong, where have you been/demands an explaintion etv, give her nothing.

Say I've got a lot on my plate and i am CRAZY busy. We will have to catch up later i have to go.

Leave her in the dark. Its where she belongs after flaky behaviour
 
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She reminds me of my dandruff problem.

I like to 'brush off' my dandruff! lolz!:p
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You could likely turn this into a bang but only if you don't do what got you flaked on initially.
 
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