"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I always call women between 5pm and 9pm, Sunday thru Thursday, I never call during the day I'm too busy, don't want her to think I'm thinking about her during my day

I never leave voice mail, these chicks listen to your voice over and over and analysis it looking for faults or clues.

I call once and if she doesn't answer I wait two days and call back a second time, if she doesn't answer I wait two days and then send a text saying, "this is so and so and I wanted you know I tried calling a couple of times". then I put it on the back burner and don't call back, unless I change my mind two or three weeks down the road, I normally don't. I never delete numbers out of my phone, on my phone I have a note attachment and make a note of how I got the number, its kind of interesting to reflect back on all the numbers, can be a confidence builder at times, also I figure maybe I will sell them to a phone solicitor someday...lol.

also a silly funny line after you ask them for a number and they start to write it down I say "ah...just put down your area code, I'm not going to bother you on the phone, I just wanted to see if I could get you to give me your number"......it always cracks em up and leaves them not knowing if I will call or not.

also I only date sun thru Thursday nights anyway.
and when I call a chick I always set up a date at least five to six days from the time I'm talking to her, I get it all set then, not any of this I will call you Thursday and we can plan it then stuff, I only call once before the date. focusing on good schedule planning, and a real busy life. also after a date or phone conversation I never say "ill call you Monday or ill call you later", I never tell her I will call her, it empowers her and also comes across as if I'm really into her. try leaving that a mystery that hasn't unfolded yet. what's the opinions on all this? Any pointers? ...anything here lame or too much?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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skirtChaser said:
I always call women between 5pm and 9pm, Sunday thru Thursday, I never call during the day I'm too busy, don't want her to think I'm thinking about her during my day

I never leave voice mail, these chicks listen to your voice over and over and analysis it looking for faults or clues.

I call once and if she doesn't answer I wait two days and call back a second time, if she doesn't answer I wait two days and then send a text saying, "this is so and so and I wanted you know I tried calling a couple of times". then I put it on the back burner and don't call back, unless I change my mind two or three weeks down the road, I normally don't. I never delete numbers out of my phone, on my phone I have a note attachment and make a note of how I got the number, its kind of interesting to reflect back on all the numbers, can be a confidence builder at times, also I figure maybe I will sell them to a phone solicitor someday...lol.

also a silly funny line after you ask them for a number and they start to write it down I say "ah...just put down your area code, I'm not going to bother you on the phone, I just wanted to see if I could get you to give me your number"......it always cracks em up and leaves them not knowing if I will call or not.

also I only date sun thru Thursday nights anyway.
and when I call a chick I always set up a date at least five to six days from the time I'm talking to her, I get it all set then, not any of this I will call you Thursday and we can plan it then stuff, I only call once before the date. focusing on good schedule planning, and a real busy life. also after a date or phone conversation I never say "ill call you Monday or ill call you later", I never tell her I will call her, it empowers her and also comes across as if I'm really into her. try leaving that a mystery that hasn't unfolded yet. what's the opinions on all this? Any pointers? ...anything here lame or too much?

Sounds like blueprint plans for a building.
 

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skirtChaser said:
I never delete numbers out of my phone
I try not to as well but it's hard. Do you ever call a random girl after a few months of not talking? I'm still debating on whether I should consider texting or calling chicks I haven't spoke to for awhile.
 

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depends on the situation, I have and been laid that night over it. that's why I always try to stay casual and not lose a cool, always trying to keep that door open.
 
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