"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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after i friendzoned a girl, do i still have a chance to get with her?

ne0phyte

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exactly what the title says. I met a girl in late january that now i regret not hooking up with. i was going through some personal stuff at the time and picking up girls wasn't even on my mind. we got drunk at a club together and i should have made out with her, but i was so preoccupied with my family situation at the time that I really wasn't feeling it. i remember holding her close in my arms, face to face. I easily could have kissed her (and I think she expected it) but instead i said i had to go and walked away. in fact, i left early that night.

fast forward to now, that girl is a part of my social circle. we are not BFFs, but we do see each other quite often when our groups go out. neither of us brought up what happened that night in the club when we met. this wouldn't even have been an issue until now where I'm starting to catch feelings for her, since I'm available now, and getting to know her through this time has made her more attractive to me.

so, even though i "friendzoned" her when we first met by not making the move, do i still have a chance? or is it usually once a girl sees you as "just a friend", regardless of who friendzoned who, it's pretty much done?

oh, i've always kept things flirty with her, been a good friend (ie study partner), but never her emotional tampon. the only sign that I'm in her friendzone now is she told me her friend is moving to our city, and "she's really cool, a good girl, and you should meet her". I think she's trying to set me up, which would show that she no longer has any interest in me?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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ne0phyte

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haha, i'm just wondering if the fz is permanent even if you're the one that does it to her. I know she sees me as a friend now, but I also know she wanted more when we first met. is this a dead end bc I wasn't interested at the time, or are there ways to rekindle her interest in me?
 
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