After breakup email message. Just analyze....

[amoka]

Finally I decided this afternoon to end my 10 months relationship with my girl for several reason. After calling it a quit, here is what I received from her. I want to know what you all think. Other things what warrant the breakup are kept purposely for non bias purposes because some may say "yeah, she did this and that too... it is definately a good idea to break up with her....." etc.

Hi Amoka

Since I got back after Thanksgiving break, I really put effort towards being more considerate of your time. I didn't want you to feel as if I didn't value you, your education, or your goals. Today, I felt that I finally got it and was content with the role I would play in your life. Although it was a struggle for me, I felt that my efforts were worth the struggle because I love you dearly. There are so many other things that I appreciated about you and our relationship that breaking up was not an option for me. I really thought we could make it work and last if we both just made the effort. And I realized that I had to put forth effort as well.

I cannot begin to explain to you how disappointed and hurt I am. It took me quite some time to trust another man with my feelings. And in the end I came to love and truly appreciate you. Yes, it may be easier for me and my time to be out of a relationship. I'm quite sure that you feel that breaking up will relieve you of some time pressures. But I've given so much of myself to you and this relationship and I've let down so many of guards, that it is extremely hard for me to let go.

I so desperately wish that things wouldn't end this way, but your intent on making this happen. I just want to let you know that I haven't loved or trusted any man the way I have you. And, regardless of my outbursts and complaints, I rarely try this hard to make someone happy. I wish it wasn't so easy for you to say good bye. I hope you will find the piece of mind that I couldn't seem to bring.

 

[joekerr31]

to be honest i can't stand letters where people 'open up their heart' anymore.

when i was in my 20s id appreciate a chic doing so and would take it as a sign that she cared and really wanted communicate that. this was just me being part of the matrix.

now i see it for what it is. pointless ramblings. women will just run on and on at the mouth, rehashing various lines from soap opera scenes. its all just endless words designed to make you feel like a bad guy and make them seem like the prize and the victim at the same time. 'look how caring and kind and empathetic i am. look how much i want to be with you. dont i just seem like the perfect woman? blah blah blah blah"

many a men have been suckered back in by such letters, only to have their nuts ripped off a month later.

the only thing i care about now is actions. words mean NOTHING to me. i judge a woman based on one thing and one thing alone, her actions.

 

[ketostix]

My take is she took an ego hit when you were the one that broke up with her first. Women usually are, and like to be, the one to break up first. this is all her ego and female pride talking.

It's kind of like the Seinfeld episode, god I love that show, where George knows his GF is going to break up with him, so he devises a pre-emptive break up plan. So he ends up with having "hand" and then she no longer wants to break up with him. Of course he ends up messing it up, but anyway point is you broke up first and now you have hand.

 

[st_99]

to be honest i can't stand letters where people 'open up their heart' anymore.

when i was in my 20s id appreciate a chic doing so and would take it as a sign that she cared and really wanted communicate that. this was just me being part of the matrix.

now i see it for what it is. pointless ramblings. women will just run on and on at the mouth, rehashing various lines from soap opera scenes. its all just endless words designed to make you feel like a bad guy and make them seem like the prize and the victim at the same time. 'look how caring and kind and empathetic i am. look how much i want to be with you. dont i just seem like the perfect woman? blah blah blah blah"

many a men have been suckered back in by such letters, only to have their nuts ripped off a month later.

the only thing i care about now is actions. words mean NOTHING to me. i judge a woman based on one thing and one thing alone, her actions.

I going to have to agree with joe, words, letters, mean nothing. Its just rambling. Blah blah blah blah...

By now after 10 months you should have a pretty good idea of what this girl is about. Thats all that matters. Forget post break up letters.

 

[drmeathead]

dude if u go back she will hold the fact u dumped her as a major trump card that entitles her to anything she wants to do in her mind. it is reusable, all powerful, and everlasting. stay clear hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

 

[ketostix]

dude if u go back she will hold the fact u dumped her as a major trump card that entitles her to anything she wants to do in her mind. it is reusable, all powerful, and everlasting. stay clear hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

Good point. She wants to lure you back for a two fold reason-to validate her ego and to even the score with you. They're both inter-related.

 

[mrRuckus]

I was going to say what joeeekerrrr said or however he spells it about her just using you as a sounding board to make herself feel better by making you feel worse.

 

[amoka]

I'm through.... thank.

 

[STR8UP]

Good point. She wants to lure you back for a two fold reason-to validate her ego and to even the score with you. They're both inter-related.

Whats the only thing worse than being dumped by a chick?

The only thing worse than being dumped is you dumping HER and then getting back with her (in ANY capacity) just to let her grab ahold of the closest branch, rip your heart out, stomp on it, and call you an ass hole before rubbing it all in your face.

Believe me, I know.

 

[amoka]

Alright, I like the way people response here. I guess great men think alike. Thanks Sosuave. Few years I would have fell for this letter but now... no no :woo: I got my mind made up. :yes:

 

[##17]

Well, you know already that this email shouldn't change your decision to end it with this girl. Anyway, to answer your question, it depends on why you decided to break up with her. But it isn't worth analyzing, as you know.


It is amazing though: Someone who does send a letter like this is probably thinking how *unique* and special he/she is being, but the reality is that MOST EVERYONE sends these kinds of letters after being broken up with. Has any one of these letters ever worked? {roll eyes}