"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
After all we've been thru, she just leaves.
- Thread starter the_great_gaia
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
HE STATED THAT SHE IS IN FACT 18 YEARS OLD. READ!
Hopefully that's clear.
And DJLegion....dude, I'm sure he appreciates your advice, but try to cut back on the negativity. Calling the guy names isn't going to help anything. I'm sure he knows his situation is f*cked.
the_great_gaia:
It's all been said and thensome. Just remember:
1). There are such things as BAD investments and This is one of them.
2). No matter how hard it is for you, stay the hell away from this girl. Remember the mindset your in right now and keep it.
I don't know what else to say....this is one of those things that can only get worse. She obviously doesn't respect you...why respect her?
If you continue, your only gonna get sh*t on again (definitely), taken, or in court for some domestic violence BS.
If some chick called me a 'lame' after I handed her MY car keys, or tried to stab me with broken mirror/glass/etc, I'd drop that sh*t and never look back. In the end, your the only person who can make that call. Chances are, you'll end up going back. Maybe a couple times before you get f*cked with enough to seriously be finished.
I can tell you from a third party perspective looking in, you really need to take action with this. Action being to avoid this girl like the plague.
Best of luck to you, I hope it works out for the best.
the_great_gaia
Senior Don Juan
I keep worrying about my AFC side trying to call/contact her. I have this picture of us together, I had thoughts of taping it to her door with the phrase: "THE END?" attached to it. I come up with the craziest thoughts, but I don't intend to act on them. Man, getting over Andrea reminds me of a certain episode of Dragon Ball Z. I know why I am so affected by what she's does/ doing. I'm not IN love with her, I'm not even sure if it's LOVE period. But she has belittled my pride! I remember when I cheated on her 3 times in Oct-Nov, my pride felt restored (this was when I was in control of the relationship). I lost my control when I let my pride go for her, then she capitalized and used my feelings against me. I know that without my pride, I am nothing. So that's exactly how I feel now, but I feel like I have to do something to her to restore my pride again, and I know just the idea!
I won't see her again until March (she dropped out of school for the semester). In her absence, I will increase my self appearence into something beyond a 10. This will bother her because I have never done this while I was with her. She thinks she created me fashionably, and I give her the credit; which is more of the reason why I have to use it against her. I will try to look like the man she always wanted, this is her weakness. And I will not interact with her, as she is in disbelief from a distance. Yes, she will try to approach me and she will try to sucker me back in, but I will not fall for it, and I will have someone else. It would hurt to watch something you created function without you. She made me, now I'm gonna make history. She told me once that If I moved on and my next girlfriend were to look better than her (which she will), Andrea would try to ruin my relationship with her. We'll see.. but I will never go back to her again.. Why am I doing this? Because I want my revenge, I want the last laugh! AND I WILL HAVE IT!! It is the only way I'd feel comfortable with myself.
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
and trusty me....it wont be hard to find a better looking girl then her.
the_great_gaia
Senior Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Only if stories about wife abuse are a good excuse for hating men.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
the worst suffering you can impose on her is to totally ignore and avoid her!! Meaning no short or long conversations.. no meeting... no recognition and acknolegement of her existence...
Yeah it sounds extreme but it the cruelest!!
California Love
Master Don Juan
This only shows that you are weak and still care. Be a man - she is out of your life forever. Don't center your life around revenge. The best way of getting back is showing that you no longer care; you have moved on.
the_great_gaia
Senior Don Juan
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.