After absorbing info from so suave

[DJnoob]

I was a very afc person 4 months ago before i absorbed all the info from this site.. after reading hours and hours of tips, strategies, the bible and pooks posts bla bla bla.

I noticed my attitude changed around women the first week after.. some kinda tansitional phase from AFC to an a$$hole around people... My guard was WAYYY UP around people, it sky rocketed through the roof.

I became a very VERY challenging person around woman.. Everything had to be done my my. "It was either my way or my way" kinda thing

As time went by, i slowly brought my guard down slowly and became less of an @sshole aronud people but still act like a jerk around women at times.. and finally, i reached the behavioral point where i was between the "nice guy" and the "****y, funny, confident jerk". Thats where im at right and i feel pretty comfortable there.

Did anyone else go through this transitional phase?

 

[So Many Ways]

I think it's completely normal. I went through a similar phase except for me it was much more drawn out.

 

[tmpgstx]

Whatever makes her feel like a woman the most. That is the key. There are all kinds of ways to do it. Charm, flare, humor, ****iness, and even nice (kids don't try this at home).

 

[TizZle]

I'm still too far toward the a$$hole side.

 

[escobar04]

I think that most of us went through this

the thing with me is that I used to be an a$$hole naturally and then I hit collge and my life changed and turned into a biyatch and didn't know it

then this mastermind girl tuned me into a complete piece of sh!t/chump and I find this board

now I'm back to my a$$holish ways and I'm waaay ahead of myself

Life is beautiful again!

 

[medjaun]

I went through the same thing, not so much being an a$$ but being really forward which is something I never had done before. Now that I've experienced that I'm starting to balance out my approachs to something more inbetween. For me it was just a matter of seeing how far I could push the limits.

 

[Skweints]

[EDIT]
Gah! I should've read your entire post! Well, seems most of this already applies or you've already learned it... but for all those who are still in this @sshole stage, you might want to read through this.
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If you're going through it like I went through it, this is a normal stage... trust me, I went full on into the @sshole stage. I wouldn't do ANYTHING for a girl, and started to feel like they owed me everything. It didn't help that my good buddy propelled me even further into this stage, but eventually, I found what I like to call "The Balance"... meaning, the balance between nice, and well, not so nice.

What I mean by this, and what may help you get out of this stage a little faster is being able to recognize when a girl is disrespectful to you. This is the hardest thing to learn. I'll be honest, I always got a lot further with women when I was my AFC self then when I was an *******. My problem was, I would continue to be nice to girls when they would do something disrespectful. Afterwards, I would get pissy and act very much like a woman to them. What I didn't know then, which I know now, is that I was holding THEM responsible for something -I- was letting them do to me. Girls are like this, especially if they are young.

Learning to deal with the tests is another difficult part to learn, but if you've gone through what I have, you'd realize that there is absolutely NO reason to get jealous over ANY girl. It's a great feeling when you reach that level of "nirvana." Knowing for a FACT that no matter what this one girl does to you, there's another girl RIGHT around the corner who might actually consider you before considering herself.

To keep things to the point, you'll learn that you'll just have to be nice to them every once in a while, but -always- show them respect. Being nice and being respectful are a bit different. Girls like it when you show them respect... especially when you show them respect all the time. I've always felt that respect is earned, not demanded. This works amazingly well. Don't be the first one to disrespect them. If they even THINK about disrespecting you, though, you make sure you let 'em know you're not gonna deal with it. And the most important part... HAVE FUN! Always have fun! I apologize if I seem like a stern old man in this post, but this is something that should be taken seriously. Anyway, this is what will show you apart from the rest. When you can walk up to a complete stranger, get shot down, and laugh about it.

I have to say, a lot of talk on these boards talk about game, and how to play it. I've come to the conclusion that games are pointless and a waste of time. If you meet a girl that is sincerely interested in you, she will NOT play games with you. If she tries to, you can either play back, or save yourself some hassle, and move on. I'd have to say by doing the latter, you're actually playing the game... by not playing the game at all.

To quote what tmpgstx said, "Whatever makes a woman feel like a woman." is right on point. However you make it happen, that's up to you. What I'm telling you are merely suggestions, but it's what works for me.